I love the smell, feel, and look of real Christmas trees. No fake knock offs. To me, there is no substitute. The live tree is part of the Christmas experience. So, when we built our house and moved in just 10 days before Christmas, I was adamant we have a real tree.
But there was a problem. The ceilings in the living room were 20 feet high. The tallest tree we could find was 12 feet. No matter, I thought, I can put it on a table and make it higher.
When we unloaded the tree, I had no idea how BIG it was! It took my husband, teenage son, and me to drag, push, and pull that tree in the door. I was chosen to “catch” the tree while they hoisted it against the wall. You can say that I caught it … or more accurately, broke its fall. I held my arms out wide while all 400 pounds pinned me flat against the wall.
Put it on a table? Ha! I wasn’t even able to lift it six inches to help put it on a stand. The whole fiasco was a scene out of a Christmas comedy.
That day I decided that some compromises must be made in life. Yes, I would miss the special details of the real tree. But fake trees aren’t so bad—they are one-fourth the weight, pre-lit, and slender at the bottom so it doesn’t swallow everyone and everything in your home. Some choices just make sense, even when we must grieve the loss of how things “used to be.”
And isn’t that true for marriage? So often we selfishly hang on to our old ways, whether for nostalgia, convenience, or just plain stubbornness. But if you step back and weigh the gains and losses, many trouble-making issues are worth letting go. Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.”
There are things worth holding onto, no matter the cost. Just make sure it’s not less important than your marriage.
The good stuff: For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. (Galatians 6:3)
Action points: Do you find yourself fighting with your spouse over little things? Think through ways to compromise in your marriage. What are you willing to give up so your relationship can gain? Is there something you need to apologize for? Make it your goal to resolve the issue today. Ask your spouse for forgiveness. Are there grudges that you have been holding? It’s time to let them go.
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