Make Your Spouse Want to Come Home
By Sabrina McDonald
I expected my husband home at 8:00.
He’d been gone for two days, and I couldn’t wait to see him. I was hungry by 5:30, but waited so we could eat together.
Maybe we could have a fire, I thought. Or maybe we could go out for dinner.
At 7:00, he called. “My client wanted to have dinner, so I’ll be late. There wasn’t much I could do.”
All kinds of thoughts popped into my head. He knew I was waiting on him for dinner. What an inconsiderate jerk!
After I hung up, I plotted ways to avenge my hunger. I’ll sulk all night and give him the silent treatment. No, I’ll go out by myself for an expensive steak dinner and be gone when he gets here …
My bitter rumination choked out the sweet thoughts of love I had only moments before. Then the Holy Spirit tweaked my heart. I wasn’t thinking of my husband with kindness and patience but with pride and vengeance.
I didn’t want my husband to dread coming home to tantrums. Home should be a warm, inviting place—our haven from pressures of the world, where we can both look forward to coming.
My husband wasn’t the enemy. The enemy was my own expectations.
I never told him I was planning a nice evening. I expected him to read my thoughts and carry out the plans I didn’t communicate.
When he finally came home, I welcomed him with open arms. And we enjoyed the rest of our evening at home … together.
The good stuff: It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 25:24)
Action points: Does your spouse look forward to coming home or dread it? What can be changed? How can you take your thoughts captive to give grace to your spouse even when your expectations aren’t met? Read James 3, which explains the power of our words.
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