By Sabrina McDonald
Social media was a lifesaver for me as a young mom. It allowed me to virtually emerge from my cocoon to join society. I enjoyed staying connected with old friends and keeping up with the latest buzz.
I remember when my late husband, David, “friended” almost every person he knew in his small high school, except one—his old girlfriend. He said it wouldn’t look appropriate to the others.
I knew David wouldn’t rekindle anything, but I felt honored by his consideration.
Around that time, we heard about a couple divorcing because the husband reunited with his high school girlfriend over Facebook. A seemingly happy couple with a daughter in college was torn apart months after this old flame was lit up.
But social media isn’t the problem. It’s the lack of boundaries.
Lines must be drawn in online relationships, just as in person. Here are some ideas to keep your guard up.
1. Avoid intimate conversations in cyberspace with people of the opposite sex. Only share information you wouldn’t mind your spouse reading.
2. Tell your spouse about conversations with the opposite sex. This avoids the temptation and problem of keeping secrets.
3. If you feel the conversation is going too far, shut it down. Don’t worry about hurt feelings. Your friend can turn to his or her spouse for consolation and their pastor or Christian counselor for advice.
Everyone feels the heat when old flames get rekindled. Make sure you’re protecting your marriage from online threats by dousing them.
The good stuff: Let what you say be simply “Yes” or “No”; anything more than this comes from evil. (Matthew 5:37)
Action points: Are there friends of the opposite sex you need to remove from your social media? What are some personal boundaries in online relationships you need to establish? Talk to your spouse about any conversations you started online with the opposite sex.
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