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I Discovered My Wife’s Biggest Turn-On - I Do Every Day - April 7, 2020

  • 2020 Apr 07
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I Discovered My Wife’s Biggest Turn-On
By Jim Mitchell

I finally discovered my wife’s biggest turn-on.

We were in the kitchen. She was staring right at it … that little green light on the dishwasher.

Now, to explain, I must confess I’d never been a fan of Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages before this incident.

The book’s premise, as you may know, is that every person is wired by God to experience love primarily in one of five ways: affirming words, acts of service, tangible gifts, quality time, or physical touch.

Initially, the whole concept felt contrived, some therapeutic categories more than biblical wisdom. I wasn’t buying it.

That is, until that moment in the kitchen, a green twinkle in my wife’s eyes and the soothing “swoosh” of the rinse cycle.

Which I’d never recognized as all that delightful. Then again, I haven’t really made a habit of doing the dishes very often.

But to the clean kitchen surprise and to the heart behind it, her reaction was magical. Foreplay, her way. A green light to love.

It was exactly what The 5 Love Languages tried to tell me. Sometimes love is more verb than vibe.

Thank you, Gary Chapman. And you’re welcome, marriage.

Click to hear Gary Chapman unpack all five love languages.

THE GOOD STUFF: Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. (1 John 3:18)

ACTION POINTS: Affirming words, acts of service, tangible gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Which does your spouse crave the most?

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