How Can I Break a Porn Addiction?
By Carlos Santiago
My first exposure to pornography was in sixth grade. And I still remember it 35 years later.
Can you remember your first exposure?
As a conference speaker and pastoral counselor, I’ve asked that question hundreds of times. Everyone has an answer. Many confess they’ve struggled to break the habit for years.
If you or someone you know is struggling with pornography, here are some ways to begin breaking the addiction.
Admit your problem
Even if you felt remorse over your past use of porn, you’ve also likely struggled with a slew of internal justifications: “I’m not hurting anyone.” Or “I’m not really cheating.”
In Jesus’ eyes there is no distinction between lust and adultery (See Matthew 5:27-28). You are hurting someone—your spouse and yourself. And yes, you are cheating. Confess your problem to God and another trusted believer.
Understand your longings
Porn provides more than sexual stimulation. It can be used as stress management or to help you feel wanted, desirable, or in control.
To beat a porn addiction, you must understand the “benefit” porn provides you beyond the sexual fix. Deep down, there is a need that must be understood and brought to Christ.
Cancel your online-streaming services. Install blockers on your phone and computer. Give a trusted friend the password to your phone and the right to check it at random times. Or go old school and buy a flip phone.
Take whatever steps necessary to give yourself the best chance of success in the future.
Shame often keeps us from receiving the help we need. But it shouldn’t.
Talk to a pastor, counselor, or another believer who can give you the support you need when you are at your weakest.
If you find yourself struggling to break free from addiction, take heart. God’s love for you is not dependent upon your ability. He understands your struggle.
And He will help you. Victory is possible.
The good stuff: No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Action points: Does today’s devotion resonate with your own struggles? Take a moment to pray now. Ask God’s help in finding the strength to overcome the battle within you.
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