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One of Us Is a Fantastic Spouse (Hint, It’s Me) - I Do Every Day - May 30, 2020

  • 2020 May 30

One of Us Is a Fantastic Spouse (Hint, It’s Me)
By Lisa Lakey

I was so proud of myself.

On my day off, I had managed to clean most of the house, the kids were in great moods, and the air was thick with the savory aroma of the dinner I had prepared. Surely, by the end of the day I’d at least be getting a certificate for my wifely achievements.

But I’d have to hold off on the speech I’d prepared. Because my dear husband meandered through the door at 6:00, blaring the news of his day. He, too, had been super-productive and awesome.

Then he planted a kiss on my cheek as he walked by to go clean up before dinner.

Don’t get me wrong, I was proud of my handsome hubby. But …

What about me?!

Ever feel that way? I’m a fairly introverted person, so needing heaps of attention and recognition doesn’t plague me often. Except when it comes to my spouse.

Especially when I’m insecure, I need to be reassured my hubby still thinks I’m worth having around.

And when I don’t hear those words of affirmation? I feel slighted. I start puffing myself up to something I’m definitely not being in that moment—a fantastic (and maybe superior) spouse.

Second Corinthians 12:9 reminds me, ”But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

On the days where I screw everything up, I have to remind myself my worth doesn’t fade with my mistakes.

But on my better days? I have to remind myself my worth isn’t increased with my deeds.

And thankfully, my husband forgives my mistakes, too. Like when I depend too much on his affirmation.

And when I think a little too highly of myself.

What are you wearing? Read on for six questions to clothe yourself in humility.

The good stuff: When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom. (Proverbs 11:2)

Action points: Instead of thinking of all the things you do for your spouse today, list two things they do to serve you selflessly. Make a point to thank them for it.

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