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Growing in Selflessness
By Kristen Terrette

“… not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4

Before I was married, I was selfish. While growing up, I didn’t play many team sports, and I had little work experience. Consequently, I didn’t have much practical training in looking out for others or caring for anyone but myself. Even still, I thought I was ready to be a devoted wife who supported and found ways to build up her husband.

In reality, I wasn’t.

In Philippians 2:4, Paul is talking to the young Christians in Philippi the same way he’d have talked to my young self. At this point in his ministry, he’s imprisoned, yet in his writings he’s encouraging the new church and giving advice regarding living a life worthy of Christ. He’s telling them to imitate Jesus’ sacrificial nature.

But Paul isn’t only telling them how to live. He’s putting his lessons into action. He’s not looking only to his interests. He’s not focusing on breaking free from his chains and escaping a dirty dungeon. Rather, he’s trying to help his fellow believers move forward in their faith and live to honor Christ.

We should strive to live the same way.

To say my priorities have changed since marrying and becoming a mother is an understatement. Gradually, I’ve learned to look out for those I love, those under my care. Now, my daily routine consists of making lunches, then driving my son to school so he can get a few extra minutes of sleep—sleep he’d miss if he rode the bus. And in deference to my penny-pincher and health-conscious husband, I’m careful which meals I prepare.

Let us seek ways to daily lift up others in both spiritual and practical ways. Let’s reach beyond our loved ones and follow Paul’s selfless example, constantly looking for ways to extend generosity and support to our friends, our co-workers, and even casual acquaintances.

Kristen Terrette holds a Master's degree in Theological Studies and served as a Children's Ministry Director for five years. She cherishes her Southern roots and currently lives forty-five minutes outside of Atlanta, GA. She’s following her dream by writing Christian during the day and being a wife and mom come early afternoon when the family starts to arrive home. She serves on the Wholly Loved Ministries team, serves at her local church on the women's leadership and teaching team, and writes for To see her blog and novels, check out her website at

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