3. Divorced men feel stigmatized in many churches.
In the eyes of many Christians, a good husband is not only faithful to his wife but loves her as Christ loved the church:
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”(Ephesians 5:25-31, ESV)
As a Christian woman commented on Facebook recently, “Women will never divorce a husband who is faithful and loves her just as Jesus Christ loved the church...”
When a Christian couple gets divorced, many Christians assume that the man is at fault. In short, he wasn’t a good husband – at least, not good enough.
Even if a man was a good husband and did everything he could to uphold and preserve the marriage, the fact that his marriage failed is all that certain churches seem to care about. The man now wears a scarlet “D” because he is divorced.
In some churches, he cannot serve in a leadership capacity – such as a pastor, elder, or deacon – because every such leader must be “the husband because of one wife” (1 Timothy 3:2, 12 and Titus 1:6).
And if he remarries, some Christians, citing Jesus’s teachings on divorce, will accuse him of committing adultery.
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