5. Be Humble
By drawing attention to the mistakes, weaknesses, and flaws of others, a Pharisee hides his own mistakes, weaknesses, and flaws. Motivated by pride, he builds himself up by tearing others down.
To leave the Pharisee life, I need to act in humility, not pride, and follow Paul’s directive in Philippians:
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3-4)
Why? Because that’s what Jesus did:
Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. (Philippians 2:5-8)
It’s tough for a prideful person to act in humility. The “cold turkey” approach that works best for me is this: I take my mistakes, weaknesses, and flaws and, rather than trying to hide them, I lead with them. Not in a public forum, but among men whom I trust. When I do that, I find that the men respond not by shaming me or humiliating me but by raising me up and, often, confessing their own transgressions as well.
It’s amazing. And it energizes my run away from the Pharisee life.
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