5. Designed to Want More
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Humans, by design, simply can’t help but want more and more and more of a great thing. You will become hard-wired to want more of the thing that you reward yourself with and you will become helpless to resist.
And each time your brain rewards you, it dulls your senses just a little bit, so that next time you’ll need a little bit more of what gave you that pleasure.
Then there is more science: During orgasm, oxytocin, a hormone that facilitates affection and emotional attachments, is released. Oxytocin makes us feel close to another person on a very deep level. So, whatever you’re looking at or thinking of—whatever was involved in bringing you to orgasm—is what you bond with at a very deep level and associate with that feeling.
So, then what are you bonding to, what are you feeling affection for when you masturbate? Porn? A fantasy? Yourself?
God’s intention when He designed your brain was that you would bond in this way exclusively with your wife.
His ingenious, perfect purpose—was to make you bond to and desire your spouse in every way, more and more, every day. That’s a healthy sexual “addiction” that He wants you to have.
Sexual desire and the physical urge to satisfy that desire will probably always be strong within you. Sexual subject matter can feel embarrassing or uncomfortable, but if you want help or need healing it’s important to seek out and ask for it.
Satan would love nothing more than to keep you trapped, suffering in secret.
Finally, it’s very important that you know something deep down inside about the perspective of Christ, which can be found in Romans 8:1. “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” This means those who strive to walk with the guidance and direction of the Holy Spirit and not based on the flesh.
There is hope, healing and help to overcome any addiction or issue that you grapple with. God paid for you to walk in freedom. It’s time to truly own the gift He bought you.
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Homer Purdy is the Director of Operations of the ALIVE Radio Network, reaching the largest Christian market in upstate New York. Homer serves locally as a counselor, Bible teacher, and minister, and is a frequent missionary throughout the nation of India. Homer and his wife have five children and he is not allowed to watch the World Series unless the Dodgers are playing. His passion is to bring the Good News of the Gospel to the lost as well as to Christians who are struggling in their faith and to build the Kingdom of God one person at a time.