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5 Beautiful Prayers for a Friend Who Is Grieving

  • Heather Adams Contributing Writer
  • 2020 8 Jun
5 Beautiful Prayers for a Friend Who Is Grieving

Experiencing seasons of loss, either personal or professional, is a part of life. Grieving is a natural and healthy response, but going through it is never easy.  It's equally hard to watch a friend and someone we care about deeply struggle with the heartache of loss. Thankfully, God has given us a unique way to minister to others in these times—intercession, or lifting up prayers on behalf of another person. Our Heavenly Father has promised:

To hear our cries

In my distress I called to the Lord; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears. (Psalm 18:6)

To act on our behalf

The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. (Psalm 34:17)

I've found that offering to pray with for a friend in moments of grief can provide them with a sense of company and comfort, easing their spirit right away. Lifting their burden up before God is a way to acknowledge His sovereignty in their lives, and invites Him to work for their good in the situation. As the writer of Hebrews instructs:

Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:16)

Prayer for a friend, whether in person or not, is a meaningful way to show concern and support. Speaking simply from the heart is always best. Declaring truths about God turns our hearts toward Him, and leads us to make requests boldly and expectantly. Here are 5 different prayers for someone who is grieving:

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  • 1. A Prayer for Your Friend's Loss of a Loved One

    1. A Prayer for Your Friend's Loss of a Loved One

    Father God,

    I lift up my friend who is mourning a loved one. I ask that You would bring her comfort in the midst of this life-shaking event. Thank you for Your promise to walk with and even carry her as she travels through the darkness of grief. Let her not be overcome with sadness, as those who have no hope, but to be strengthened by an awareness of Your presence.

    Give her wisdom to make decisions and to handle any issues that may arise as arrangements are made and events take place. Protect her heart and mind. I pray a sense of calm would take hold, even while emotions around her run high, and that the peace you give her would overflow onto those nearby.

    Father, You know just what will minister the most to my friend spiritually and emotionally right now. Gently lead her to find the right balance of being alone and being with others. Speak to her through Scripture. Show her Your love through the words and actions of someone else. Help her find moments of solace in the natural world You've created.

    Thank You for being the God of all comfort, the One who holds us in Your hand. It says in Your Word that one day there will be no more death. But for now, I praise You for holding my friend close and giving her rest.

    In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    Matthew 5:4
    Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

    1 Thessalonians 4:13
    Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope.

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    2. A Prayer for a Friend Who Loses Employment

    Lord,

    I pray for my friend who has just suffered a job loss. Father, please meet him in this difficult, even scary place, for You are his shelter in the storm. Help him to release any feelings of shock, anger, or confusion to You, and shield his heart so that bitterness would not take root.

    Thank You for being our Provider, and that You already know all our greatest needs. Let Him turn to You to supply everything he lacks, and to grow in trust as he sees You respond. I ask that You would care for him physically, in very practical ways. Grant him emotional support through quiet time with You, and through family and friends.

    Lead him into Your Word, where he will find encouragement and hope for his spirit. As my friend processes this change, Father, may he be reminded that his identity does not come from a job—his work does not define him. Reassure him that he is valuable to You, and deeply loved, just as he is at this moment.

    Amid all the advice he might receive, give him discernment to recognize Your still, small whisper. I lift up praise, God, for Your promise that we have a hope and a future. Let my friend embrace this truth now, so that he can rest in You as he waits for what's next.

    In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    Philippians 4:19
    And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

    Jeremiah 29:11
    For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

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    3. A Prayer for a Friend Whose Marriage Is Ending

    Lord God,

    Thank You for the gentleness and tender care You desire to show my friend as her marriage is ending. Every divorce is a painful situation that affects so many people. So I pray that You would cover and provide for not just her, but family and friends who are impacted by it as well—let Your grace abound.

    Father, be the balm that her heart needs now. When she feels regretful or angry, bring Your soothing touch. As she mourns, keep her from despair. If loneliness becomes too great, break its grip.

    I ask that You guide her to take good care of herself, and to accept the kindness other people show towards her. Please reassure her that even though her marriage has ended, she never has to fear being separated from You, Lord. May she find great comfort in knowing that Your love for her is strong, unchanging, and unbreakable.

    Let a greater sense of Your presence bring peace to her soul. I praise You, God, for being our Deliverer, and that You will bring my friend through this time into a place of hope and renewal. Right now, please give her strength to get up and meet each morning, and the wisdom to spend quiet time with You during the day.

    In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    Lamentations 3:22-23
    Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

    Romans 8:37-39
    For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

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    4. A Prayer for a Friend Whose Nest Is Now Empty

    Abba Father,

    I come before You to lift up my friend who is now an empty-nester. You created us to be in families, and understand how strong the bond is between parents and children. My friend has invested herself into their lives, raising and caring for them, and is now watching them step out on their own. It is an important time of separation for a child, yet a bittersweet one for Mom.

    Though she may feel jolted by this change, it was no surprise to You, Lord. Thank You that You want to help her navigate all the emotions that will arise. Let her not fall into excessive sadness, but teach her how to look back with fondness. Turn any agitation into calm.

    If she starts to fall into lethargy, renew her sense of purpose. I praise You, Father, for doing new things in our lives. My friend is at the end of one season, but has the gift of beginning a new one. Reassure her that even as her role shifts, her position as their mother will never change. She will always be needed, especially as a mentor and a prayer warrior.

    Let her find satisfaction in how she raised her children as they grew, and enjoy getting to know them today as adults. I also pray that she would be excited to find ways to serve You going forward.

    In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    Ecclesiastes 3:1
    There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens…

    Isaiah 43:19
    See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

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  • 5. A Prayer for A Friend Whose Dream Has Been Delayed or Lost

    5. A Prayer for A Friend Whose Dream Has Been Delayed or Lost

    Gracious Father,

    Thank You that we are beautifully and wonderfully made. You give each of us abilities and talents, and call us to use them. But sometimes we make plans that, for whatever reason, don't work out as we'd like.

    Right now I lift up my friend whose closely-held dream seems to be put on hold. It says in Scripture that Your Ways are higher than ours, and that we must not lean on our own understanding. So in this time of disappointment, help my friend to turn to You as his confidant and comforter.

    I pray that he would receive an extra measure of Your grace to let go of his dream for the moment. May he not rush into the next idea or project, Lord, but take the time to seek Your vision for his life. Grow his desire to bring You glory through his gifts, and grant him patience as he waits for Your timing to do that. In moments when he feels lost, give him clarity of mind through Your Word and through prayer. Provide supportive friends and wise counselors to guard his steps.

    Father, I give praise that You have good plans and purposes for us. Let this be a chance for my friend to renew his commitment to serve You in the way You desire. For, out of that will come true success, satisfaction, and joy for him.

    In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    Proverbs 19:21
    Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails.

    Proverbs 3:5-6
    Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

    Psalm 37:5, Psalm 37:7
    Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him...Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him…

    It can be hard to know what to say to a friend who is mourning a loss. We want to bless them and not burden them during such a period. I've been grateful for the examples in Scripture of intercessory prayers from Godly people. Like King David, the Apostle Paul, and many others, we can reach out to others by reaching up, asking God to provide His healing touch.

    Over the years, I've discovered some hints for effective prayer with someone:

    Let Scripture guide what you say, claiming God's truths and promises.

    Invite them to pray out loud in their own words so they can engage in the process.

    Don't be afraid of silence—a moment of reflection can yield important insights.

    Follow-up with them, making sure they know you care and want to stay connected.

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    Heather Adams is an author, speaker, and singer living in Connecticut. Heather’s passion is to equip and encourage believers to seek more of God’s truth and to experience more of His joy each day. Her book, Bow Down: The Heart of a True Worshipper is a practical, 30-day devotional about worship based on the writings of King David. Heather's blog, Worship Walk Ministries, offers weekly Scripture passages and insights to ponder. A native New Englander, Heather is settling into her home in the South, trying out local foods and watching for the alligators that live nearby! You can connect with her on her website: heatheradamsworshipwalk.com