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The Key to Praying Effectively

  • Kevin East President, Boys & Girls Clubs of East Texas
  • Published Nov 30, 2015
The Key to Praying Effectively

When I pray with my kids, I can tell their minds are somewhere else.  They might have their eyes closed, but talking to God is the very last thing on their minds.  I guess for us adults, some things never change.

Years ago I read a quote by Mother Teresa.  When asked what she says when she prays she answered, "I listen".  When asked what God says, she responded, "He listens".

All too often, I look at prayer only as presenting my requests before God.  After all, that is exactly what He asks me to do.  By viewing prayer solely through this lens, though, I miss out on so much that prayer is.  Can prayer really be a conversation?

Most of us never experience this.  Our lives get busy, and we start "dumping fuel" at any possible moment, just trying to keep our heads above water.  Prayer becomes a luxury.  It is something we do in the midst of our frenetic actions that we call life.

When we consider the health of our prayer life, I think there is a simple key that would take it from being on life support to being intimate, real and replenishing.

People pray effectively when they create space and a place to pray. When I get busy, I somehow get this God complex, thinking that sleep is more important than connecting with God.  But when I believe I am weak and crave time with my Father, I enjoy time in a chair in my den with a good cup of coffee and my Bible.

In his book, Spiritual Direction, Henri Nouwen describes a threefold process of prayer this way:  "We first cry out to God with all our needs and requests.  Then we turn our unceasing thoughts into continual conversation with God.  Finally, we learn to listen to God in our hearts through a daily discipline of meditation and contemplative practice."

The results of our prayers are far out of our control.  What is in our control, however, is the time that is set apart to pray.  Instead of focusing on the results, it is freeing to think of just making myself available.

I have been reminded again that time early in the morning for me is something I desperately crave.  Augustine says, "My soul is restless until it rests in you, O God."  The same is true for me.

Somewhere between 6 and 7am, I'll be in my chair in my den, trying to focus my heart on Jesus.  Yes, my mind will be distracted.  It will wander.  But I believe over a period of time, God will continue to show me how to listen.  I'll be eager to hear what He says. Maybe it's time for you to create the space and designate the place to let your heart and mind dwell on the richness of God.  Don't worry about the distractions.  Don't focus on the results.  Be still, and know that He is God. What is your prayer life like?


If you liked this post, check out Kevin's personal blog, Following to Lead, where he regularly writes on following, leading, fostering and family.