Grace reviews and redistributes household duties.
One morning while marinating lamb chops for dinner, Dave was sitting in his recliner reading, still in his PJs at 11:00 a.m. I was hurrying to get back to work on a book deadline, when it hit me: few men wake up in the morning wondering: What should we have for dinner?
When hubby is working all day, if the wife isn’t also working outside the home, it seems a fair division of efforts—she plans and makes dinner, he goes to work to pay for it. Now that he’s home, it’s time to discuss a redistribution of household tasks before the wife becomes resentful. Otherwise, when he asks, “What’s for dinner?” he won’t understand why he gets a cold shoulder.
Usually, the wife needs to open the discussion on teamwork.
As I marinated those lamb chops, I thought I’ll have him barbeque them and put some veggies and bread on the grill. I won’t have to cook and have the mess to clean up. That’s teamwork.
I love my friend Anita’s advice to her daughters: “Never figure out how to use the BBQ. That’s the only freedom you’ll ever have from cooking.” I’ve taken that advice,
After retirement, it’s imperative to pool efforts and work together as the team you became on your wedding day. Be creative and courteous with your suggestions and be sure to leave time for fun.
Sit down and talk about how to divide the household chores. Wives, he might not do everything the way you do it, and husbands, be patient as your wife gives up some of her domain.
Dave doesn’t cook, so I do the cooking, planning, and meal shopping. But he now sets the table, empties the dishwasher, does the dishes, takes out the trash, occasionally stirs a pot on the stove, and is great at barbequing—especially at Thanksgiving when Dave BBQs the turkey—what a blessing for us both!
His real forte is helping me in my ministry with his computer and technical skills to make business cards, create PowerPoints and more—he’s really good at it, and he enjoys these creative ventures.
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