How You Can Make Anxiety Work for You Instead of against You
- Lisa Murray lisamurrayonline.com
- 2017 11 Sep
We’ve all had moments where we were afraid. Fear is a natural emotion, a normal response to a real threat. We may feel afraid if someone unknown enters our home. We may feel afraid if we are in a situation where our life or wellbeing is endangered.
Anxiety can have some similarities to fear, yet anxiety is a response that describes lingering apprehension, or a chronic sense of worry or tension, the sources of which may be totally unclear or unknown. I’m anxious because I am uncertain at times how my words will be received. I get unsettled with worry that something will happen to my children, my husband. Living in uncertain times, I can become overwhelmed with apprehension at what lies in store for our world, our country, our homes.
Though fear and anxiety can have similar appearances, and though many people use the words quite interchangeably, they are unique. We can even distinguish the two by our bodily experience. The neurobiology of fear is different than the neurobiology of anxiety. The sudden re-arrangement of your guts when an intruder holds a knife to your back (fear), is different from the mild nausea, dizziness and butterflies in your stomach as you're about to make a difficult phone call (anxiety).
The truth is, we all experience anxiety to one degree or another. We as individuals may express it differently, some through a stomachache, some through anger or depression, while others experience symptoms of panic, which can lead to panic attacks.
Anxiety, like all uncomfortable emotions, is a normal part of the human experience. It is what we do with these emotions that will ultimately determine how we face the challenges in life and how we engage ourselves and our relationships.
Many people spend their lives running away from anxiety. Though for some, medication is absolutely necessary, for many a pill is a quick-fix, a way out of feeling and dealing with this uncomfortable pain. Many of us seek to numb the pain with alcohol, work, success, food, relationships, sex, television, phones, games, etc. so that we can avoid feeling anxiety. In the church our focus has historically been in praying anxiety away.
Yet if emotions are God’s flashing lights to help guide us on our journey, do we miss healing and growing opportunities by simply praying it away and avoiding it at all costs? What if there is something about which God is trying to gain our attention? What if there is an area in which He wants to teach us and grow us?
If we live our lives avoiding anxiety, I believe there is a chance we are missing out on God.
I am convinced that the more we can look anxiety in the eye, with courage, diligence, and curiosity, the more we will understand ourselves, understand the heart of God, gain wisdom about life, and the less grip anxiety will ultimately have on us.
Only when we face our emotions, experience our emotions as both potential stumbling blocks and wise guides, can we begin to live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope.
Emotions are a powerful resource. My new book, Peace for a Lifetime, unpacks the purpose of emotions so we are no longer forced to ignore them, numb them, or drown in them. I share simple, practical, life steps that can help you understand the life God desires for you. This material can help you create and experience an indestructible peace – not just for today, not just for tomorrow, you can experience peace for a lifetime.
How do you deal with anxiety?
Do you run away, avoid, or medicate your feelings?
I encourage you to stop running, face your anxiety. Lean in. Listen to it. Breathe into it. Ask God to help you understand it.
Make your anxiety start working for you. Let it strengthen you. Let it build within you courage you never knew existed. Let it take you one step further down the road on your journey toward healing and wholeness.
Lisa Murray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, author, speaker, coffee lover, and wife. Her online community lisamurrayonline.com provides a compassionate place embrace peace in the midst of the stresses and struggles of life. In her new book, Peace for a Lifetime, Lisa Murray shares the keys to cultivating a life that’s deeply rooted, overflowing, and abundant, the fruit of which is peace. While she grew up in the Florida sunshine, she and her husband now live just outside Nashville in Franklin, TN. Peace for a Lifetime is available on Amazon.com. Visit her on Facebook and Twitter.
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Publication date: September 11, 2017
Lisa Murray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Jesus girl, and a recovering perfectionist. Her passion is to encourage and empower individuals—whether in their hearts, their marriages, or their faith—to cultivate healing and wholeness that will awaken a heart of peace. Her book, Peace For A Lifetime, is available on Amazon. She writes weekly at LisaMurrayOnline.com. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.