Understanding and Accepting What God Has Taught You Through This Process
The peace also comes with awareness and acceptance of what lesson God imparted to you through this experience. You realize that the heartache and anger from what your friend committed against you was never used by God to hurt you, but instead to guide you, to grow you, and to prosper you as you move forward in His plan for you. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will guide your path” (Prov. 3:5-6, NKJV).
Even if the most drastic step was taken and you ended the friendship because of what happened, or due to an accumulation of events, peace from God can even emerge there in knowing that forgiveness was given before the friendship’s conclusion and you ended on better terms than with a screaming match.
A Healthy Way Forward
This awareness and acceptance will also come through in how you describe this experience to those around you. Before, maybe you vented about it, said something scathing remarks about the person, cried, punched a wall: now, you are reflective on it and can use the experience as a witness of how God used something that was bad for good.
Maybe people listening have endured their own heartache from a friend and will be shocked to hear instead of hateful words or actions about the offensive friend an attitude of thanksgiving and spiritual reflection that are breaths of fresh air.
It’s not easy to find peace after forgiveness of someone, but God can use the situation to strength you and the forgiven person independently, together with your friendship/relationship, or even in sharing the testimony of the experience to reflect God’s glory and love. All you need to do is forgive and follow God, as He alone knows the outcome of every situation in our lives and knows what is best to grow us into the Christ-followers we are meant to be.
Blair Parke is a freelance writer for BibleStudyTools.com and editor for Xulon Press. A graduate of Stetson University with a Bachelor's in Communications, Blair previously worked as a writer/editor for several local magazines in the Central Florida area, including Celebration Independent and Lake Magazine in Leesburg, Florida and currently freelances for the Southwest Orlando Bulletin.
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