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Living as Sons and Daughters

  • Os Hillman President, Marketplace Leaders
  • Updated May 15, 2013
Living as Sons and Daughters

“I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters,” says the Lord Almighty (2 Corinthians 6:18).

Satan wants us to see ourselves as slaves and orphans, not sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father. The marketplace wants to make us slaves living from performance instead of our heart.

In Luke 15:11-32 we find the story of the prodigal son. Jesus tells this story of a son who asked for an early inheritance, then floundered it away through a sinful life. Once he realized his sin, he repented. The father welcomed him back and did not even make mention of his sin. He rejoiced over the return of this son. This is a picture of the unconditional love of our Heavenly Father. His brother, however, was a picture of a son living as a slave. He lived to please the father through his performance. His works made him feel entitled to preference and he was angry with the father’s unconditional acceptance of the wayward son. His pride revealed that he was not living as a son, but a slave. We are all susceptible to this attitude.

Before we were born again into God’s Kingdom we were all slaves and orphans. However, all of us are Galatians 4:1-7 when we receive Christ into our lives.

“Now I say that the heir, as long as he is a child, does not differ at all from a slave, though he is master of all, but is under guardians and stewards until the time appointed by the father. Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world. But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons.

"And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, ‘Abba, Father!’ Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ.“

Living as a son is the key to living a victorious Christian life. Joseph lived as a son, not as a slave. His father Jacob doted on him. In fact, his father gave too much favoritism to his son, attracting spirits of envy and jealousy which almost resulted in murder. Even when Joseph was made a slave in Egypt, he still lived as a son. A slave would have become bitter and would have retaliated for his circumstances. However, Joseph entrusted himself to his Father as evidenced by his behavior. He was thrown four difficult tests and he passed each one of them with flying colors. He passed the test of betrayal by forgiving God and his brothers. He passed the sexual temptation by fleeing from Potiphar’s wife and going to prison for his righteousness. He passed the perseverance test when he was forgotten after giving a dream interpretation to the cupbearer. And, he passed the stewardship test when he refused to repay all those who had betrayed him and became a faithful steward over the resources of Egypt. Joseph lived 81 years after being elevated from the prison cell. He could never have passed those tests had he not lived as a son. The one thing he always wanted more than anything else was to see his father again. The father-son connection was strong in Joseph and this is why he was successful in his trials.

"And God sent me before you to preserve posterity for you in the earth, and to save your lives by a great deliverance. So now it was not you who sent me here, but God; and He has made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of his entire house, and a ruler throughout all the land of Egypt" (Genesis 45:7-8).

When God delivered Joseph from prison, He took him from prison to the pinnacle of power. Many of us have taught that Joseph was second in command to Pharaoh. Actually, Joseph was over his entire household. He may not have had the title of Pharaoh, but from a spiritual position, Joseph was over the entire nation. However, a closer examination of scripture tells us two very important things about his advancement. The purpose of Joseph’s deliverance was “to save the lives of his brothers for the sake of a new nation and for Joseph to “spiritually father Pharaoh.”

How could it happen that a 30-year old would father someone possibly twice his age? It is because it was a spiritual relationship. Joseph never lost sight of who he was. He never lived as an orphan or a slave. He could be a father to Pharaoh because he was a good son first. He was able to forgive and see a larger story to his life because of his position as a son that he never rejected. This allowed him to operate from an intimate relationship with his Heavenly Father, to have dreams and interpret dreams and to gain super-natural marketplace strategies that would give him favor among the leaders of government because he was a problem solver, not just a religious person. This is also why he did not succumb to the temptations that come with power and influence and wealth. He remained a steward of God’s purposes on the earth for the nation of Israel and Egypt. This is why many marketplace leaders cannot be entrusted with wealth and influence today. They still live as orphans and slaves by seeking to achieve value through their accomplishments rooted in performance, workaholism, money and fear of failure.

Joseph lived a life that others were attracted to. His life was rooted in his position as a son of his Heavenly Father and his father Jacob. Joseph’s fondness for his father was expressed many times in the scriptures. The one thing he longed for more than anything during those years of separation was to be reunited with his father. This is a picture of the spiritual son to father relationship.

Below is a comparison of what it means to live as a son, versus a slave.

Living as a Son

And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, "Abba, Father!" Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ (Galatians 4:6-7).

A son:

  • Believes and experiences the unconditional love of the father
  • Experiences sonship as an heir based on his position to the father
  • Rests in the security of his father’s provision
  • Knows, "when I fail I am still loved."
  • Knows, "I’m a steward of what my father entrust to me."
  • Loves the father's character. (unconditional love)
  • Knows that value is totally based on position as a son/daughter
  • Experiences love
  • Receives gracefully
  • Recognizes sins, is repentant
  • Lives from the heart
  • Believes he/she is loved
  • Operates in the inner and outer court as both king and priest
  • Has a Godly Kingdom lifestyle defined by grace and redemption
  • Lives under God’s authority

Living as a Slave

Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; Unless the Lord guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain.  It is vain for you to rise up early, To sit up late, To eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep (Psalms 127:1-2)

A slave:

  • Believes he must perform to gain the father’s love
  • Believes becoming an heir is tied to performance, not his position as a son
  • Believes provision is only through performance
  • Thinks, "when I fail I believe I deserve judgment."
  • Thinks, "I am entitled to a share of anything I do."
  • Resents the father's character (wants conditions)
  • Thinks that value is only based on what he/does does, and how well he/she does it.
  • Thinks that love is earned
  • Expects an entitlement
  • Is self-righteous, prideful
  • Lives from legalism
  • Believes he/she is defective (shame)
  • Operates only in the outer court of performance as a king
  • Has a worldly kingdom perspective defined by performance and posturing
  • Rejects God’s authority

God Disciplines His Sons and Daughters

If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness Hebrews 12:7-11).

In order to be a legitimate son or daughter we must allow our Father to discipline us at times. Discipline is always for our profit. God’s desire is that we all become more like His Son, Jesus. That requires “pruning the branch” along the way. And God doesn’t prune dead branches, only those that are alive and yielding fruit. Hebrews 5:8-9. “Though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which He suffered."

So, are you living as a son or daughter, or an orphan? God wants to demonstrate His love to you as your Heavenly Father. Why not ask Him to show you how to live as a true son or daughter?

Os Hillman is author of Change Agent and TGIF Today God Is First daily email devotional at www.TodayGodIsFirst.com

Publication date: May 15, 2013