5. They don’t respect your boundaries.
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It’s important to remember that each one of us has limits. We all need to say ‘no’ sometimes—understanding what boundaries are best for us and our loved ones.
Someone who may be toxic won’t like it when you put limits in place. They may try to talk you out of what’s healthy for you, or simply not understand why you have to put boundaries up in the first place. People who don’t respect your boundaries may even become angry in these situations.
Know this type of behavior is not okay. Boundaries are needed, even in the closest of relationships, and someone who repeatedly refuses to respect yours is dangerously close to the edge of toxic.
These five signs of a toxic relationship aren’t guaranteed dealbreakers and they don’t mean your relationship with that person has to end today. But each of these characteristics do show that you need to set up some guardrails to protect your own emotional health.
Maybe the person you have a relationship with who’s exhibiting these toxic tendencies simply isn’t aware they’re doing so, and they need you to lovingly point out these toxic areas in your relationship. On the other hand, sometimes it’s up to us to look past a person’s toxic behaviors to try to understand why they might be behaving the way they are.
All that being said, if you’ve taken the time to have a conversation with the person in your life who’s showing signs of being toxic and they don’t change their behavior, you don’t have to feel like a bad person for walking away from the relationship. We all deserve to have relationships with others that are life-giving and encouraging, not draining and frustrating.
Use these types of situations to examine the areas in your own life where you might be exhibiting toxic behaviors, and be intentional about bringing people into your life who build you up, not tear you down. I promise you they’re out there, and you don’t have to settle for toxic relationships.
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