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10 Ways Christians Can Love One Another Well

  • Carrie Lowrance Crosswalk Contributor
  • 2019 5 Aug
10 Ways Christians Can Love One Another Well

John 13:34-35 reads, “So now I am giving you a new commandment; Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” Still, how do we love one another well? There are many ways we can do this by giving our time, talents, and stuff.

Jesus gave this command in the hours before his crucifixion. He told his disciples that the time had come for him to leave them. Jesus said to them and the Jewish leaders that even though they would search for him, they could not go to him. Then he gave them the command to love one another as he loved them.

The Matthew Henry Commentary explains,

"He [Jesus] discourses with them concerning the great duty of brotherly love (v. 34v. 35): You shall love one another. Judas was now gone out, and had proved himself a false brother; but they must not therefore harbour such jealousies and suspicions one of another as would be the bane of love: though there was one Judas among them, yet they were not all Judases. Now that the enmity of the Jews against Christ and his followers was swelling to the height, and they must expect such treatment as their Master had, it concerned them by brotherly love to strengthen one another’s hands. Three arguments for mutual love are here urged:—1. The command of their Master (v. 34): A new commandment I give unto you. He not only commends it as amiable and pleasant, not only counsels it as excellent and profitable, but commands it, and makes it one of the fundamental laws of his kingdom; it goes a-breast with the command of believing in Christ, 1 Jn. 3:23 ; 1 Pt. 1:22 . It is the command of our ruler, who has a right to give law to us; it is the command of our Redeemer, who gives us this law in order to the curing of our spiritual diseases and the preparing of us for our eternal bliss. It is a new commandment; that is, (1.) It is a renewed commandment; it was a commandment from the beginning (1 Jn. 2:7 ), as old as the law of nature, it was the second great commandment of the law of Moses; yet, because it is also one of the great commandments of the New Testament, of Christ the new Lawgiver, it is called a new commandment; it is like an old book in a new edition corrected and enlarged. This commandment has been so corrupted by the traditions of the Jewish church that when Christ revived it, and set it in a true light, it might well be called a new commandment. Laws of revenge and retaliation were so much in vogue, and self-love had so much the ascendant, that the law of brotherly love was forgotten as obsolete and out of date; so that as it came from Christ new, it was new to the people. (2.) It is an excellent command, as a new song is an excellent song, that has an uncommon gratefulness in it. (3.) It is an everlasting command; so strangely new as to be always so; as the new covenant, which shall never decay (Heb. 8:13 ); it shall be new to eternity, when faith and hope are antiquated. (4.) As Christ gives it, it is new. Before it was, Thou shalt love thy neighbour; now it is, You shall love one another; it is pressed in a more winning way when it is thus pressed as mutual duty owing to one another." (You can read the full explanation here.) 

We live in a world where jealousy, envy, and comparison trump most everything else. It seems the most important thing is how many followers we have, how we can destroy others to get ahead or to be mean in general, and how we are going to get the latest and most significant thing to outdo our neighbors or friends. The notion of love, empathy, and compassion has gone by the wayside.

Here are 10 ways Christians can love one another well:

1. Check on your Christian neighbors

If you have elderly Christian neighbors, check on them once or twice a week or take them a meal. If they need to run an errand either take them or offer to do it yourself. Offer to drive them to church or Bible study at someone’s house.

2. Help a friend plan a church event

Has one of your friends volunteered for the church bake sale, garage sale, or to host a dinner for church speaking guests? Offer to help them organize the event or find volunteers and donations for the garage sale. You can also offer to help cook and serve at the dinner or bake goodies for the bake sale.

3. Host a friend for the night

Do you have a friend who is having a difficult time? Offer to have them spend the night at your house to get away from it all. You can spend your evening in Bible study and prayer, watching a Christian movie, or something else that gets their mind off things. You can also share a favorite dinner or munch on your favorite snacks and beverages.

4. Volunteer

If you have a friend who needs help cleaning out their garage for the church garage sale or cleaning their house before the mission family they are hosting arrives, volunteer to help. If they volunteer at a Christian based organization, offer to join them for a day. They will appreciate the help, and your bond will grow closer.

5. Do a favor

Is your friend having a particularly hectic day and you have some extra time? Offer to walk their dog in the afternoon or pick up their dry cleaning or get their kids from school.

“And may the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows” (1 Thessalonians 3:12).

6. Spend some time in prayer

It’s easy for all of us to get busy and send up a “blanket” or “list” prayer. Set aside some time for specific, strategic prayer every day. Pray for your friends’ particular situations with power and purpose.

 Also, think about other Christians that need powerful prayer. Some examples are Christians in the military and even those who face persecution in foreign countries. Christians that are in prison also need lots of prayers. It doesn’t matter if you know someone in this situation personally or not. Prayer is one of the best ways we can love others well.

7. Take a meal

If you have a member of your church that is recovering from an illness or a surgery, put out a sign-up sheet so people can take meals over on rotating nights. This way, the family won’t feel overwhelmed in trying to cook and take care of a loved one. They will also feel well loved.

8. Write a letter

Sit down and think about all the reasons why you love your friend. Let them know how glad you are that God brought them into your life. Add some words of encouragement – we all need these in the good and bad times. Then either write or type them a letter. Stick it in an envelope and leave it somewhere that they will find it by accident. They will appreciate your heartfelt words and be glad to have a token of your love that they can read over and over again.

9. Forgive someone

If someone has hurt you don’t hold a grudge. No matter how bad the pain is. Matthew 11:25 states, “But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins too.” Jesus doesn’t want us to fight and hold things against each other; instead, he wants us to live peacefully with each other. In Ephesians 5:21-6:4, Paul talks about wives submitting to their husbands and children obeying their parents. In essence, families should respect each other and live together peacefully. This applies to both the family of Christ and our own families as well.

“Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works” (Hebrews 10:24).

10. Practice radically ordinary hospitality

I recently read a book called The Gospel Comes with a House Key, and it made a significant impression on me. It talks about the concept of radically ordinary hospitality. What does this mean? In a nutshell, it means opening your house to everyone, strangers and Christian friends alike.

It’s the kind of hospitality that turns strangers into neighbors and points neighbors towards becoming members of the family of God. It’s not pushy or harsh; it’s about showing everyone love no matter what their situation is. I think this is an ideal way to love our Christian friends well and also to demonstrate God’s love to those who may not believe as well.

There are many ways we can love one another well. Let’s pray.

Dear Lord,

You know I get busy in my life and don’t take the time to connect with my friends as I should. The last thing I want is for my relationships with people to die from neglect. Please help me make the time to spend with my friends and love them well.

In your name, I pray


Related article: Why Christians Should 'Love One Another' Even When We Think Others Are Hard to Love

Carrie Lowrance is a writer and author. Her work has been published on Huffington Post, The Penny Hoarder, Young Modern Money, and WriteSpike. She is also the author of two children’s books, Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green) and Brock’s Bad Temper (And The Time Machine). You can find out more about Carrie and her writing at www.carrielowrance.com.

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