Give Your H-E-A-R-T first and foremost!
I’ve had a number of relationships with girls where I shared my love and life with them, labored over them with prayer and emotional investment, and we went on to do Bible studies together that bore a lot of fruit (perhaps the most classical concept of discipling) but I’ve also had relationships where I just did my best to love on them as they were available. Interestingly, some of the smallest actions of reaching out, in later years, seem to have perhaps meant the most.
Jesus poured hours into Peter, John, Matthew, Andrew, James and the others in His disciple circle. But don’t you think that the moment He looked into Zacchaeus’ face and the evening they spent having dinner, just meant the world to Zacchaeus? He went on to live a radically changed life, from having dinner together!
So, something as small as inviting someone over to tea or dinner (or my favorite, for a bonfire and coffee… with loads of whipped cream!), could ultimately be all the Lord is calling you to do. So, let go of the picture you have of discipleship, let go of the checklist, any prepared speeches, etc. And let the Lord have His way with the relationships He brings into your life. Keep His word, His Gospel, and His love at the center of the relationship. But let the expectations go.
If you want to be a woman who funnels God’s love, grace, and truth on others, you’ll love this book by my mentor, Pam Farrel, Woman of Influence.
April Motl is a pastor’s wife, mom, and women’s ministry director. Visit www.MotlMinistries.org for more encouraging resources.
If you also struggle with growing past emotional baggage into the abundant life Christ promised, check out this study I wrote that walks you through the steps I took to grow through some of my emotional weakness and baggage: Free to Flourish: Cultivating the Fruit of the Spirit
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