Are Certain Sins Hereditary?
- Cindi McMenamin Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
- 2013 31 May
Do you ever wonder if you and your family members are susceptible to certain sins because they seem to repeat themselves in your family history?
"Jeanette" recently wrote me and said: "My husband verbally abused his oldest daughter. His father abused his older daughter as well. My ex-husband and my former father-in-law are Christians and both became Christians while very young, so they abused even as Christians. Our daughter became a Christian while very young, but at 16, walked away from Christ. Is this (verbal abuse) hereditary? Is our son going to do this to his oldest daughter?"
Jeanette's question is a valid one. A history of sinful behavior can certainly look like it's hereditary or ingrained in us because of the patterns we see while growing up, and because of patterns we tend to see repeated throughout generations. Seeing these patterns can cause us to be fearful for our future, or for that of our children's. But, let me say it for the record (and then I'll explain): Sin for an unbeliever is natural. Sin for a follower of Christ is a choice.
Sin, itself, is hereditary. Romans 3:23 tells us: "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." That means, whether we claim to follow Christ or not, we are susceptible to sin and succumbing to living according to the desires of the flesh. However, one who is following Christ has the power within himself or herself (through the indwelling Holy Spirit) to not continue to sin and to break the cycle of dysfunction he or she saw or experienced while growing up. It is possible to break a sin pattern and start a new legacy. The key? Walking daily in the power of Christ's Holy Spirit.
The Sins of the Father
I'm sure you have heard Christians quote a portion of Exodus 20:5 taken out of context, which says, "I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sins of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me." Some people take this to mean that certain curses or sins can be inherited from parent to child. However, there are two problems with that view.
First of all, Deuteronomy 24:16 clearly states that God punishes people for their own sins, not the sins of others. (Ezekiel 18:2-20 further confirms this.) So the phrase "punishing the children for the sin of the fathers" in Exodus 20:5 cannot possibly refer to the idea of generational curses - that God's punishment against one person will also be poured out upon the descendants of that person. That passage, instead, is referring not to children who have inherited sin from their parents, but rather to children who have chosen to follow in the footsteps of their parents.
Secondly, that curse in Exodus 20:5 ends with the qualifier: "to the third and fourth generation of those that hate me." Another point Exodus 20:5 makes is that the effects of sin and disobedience are powerful and can affect future generations. But later in that same verse we read that God shows "love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments." In other words, the effects of obedience are even more powerful than the effects of disobedience.
A New Legacy
Furthermore, God's Word tell us "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come" (Second Corinthians 5:17). New creation - did you catch that? There is no longer a link to your past. You are brand spanking new when you are trusting in Christ's death as the penalty for your sin and His resurrection as your promise and inheritance of eternal life.
Because of that promise in Scripture, you have within you more of a potential to be like Jesus than to be like your parents or your ancestors before them. The Holy Spirit working in you is more powerful than any past "generational sin" or deeply-ingrained habit or supposed genetic tendencies. So, Christ's nature in you is more deeply implanted in your being than the human nature of your earthly father or mother. That is a reason to rejoice! And it is reason to pray for our husbands and children that they will walk in their new nature in Christ, not repeat the patterns of sin they saw while growing up.
Like Jeanette, there are days when I, too, begin to fear that I (or my child) will follow in the footsteps of ancestors who walked in sin. (I can point to alcoholism, drug addiction, pride, legalism, unforgiveness and resentment, adultery, and various obsessive compulsive disorders - on either or both sides of my family history.) And on the days when I hear the accusing voice inside my head that says "You will be just like that" it is then that I quote aloud the most liberating verse I know:
I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me, and delivered Himself up for me (Galatians 2:20, NASB).
We can let Him live His life through us and we don't have to worry about repeating the sins of the past.
Like Jeanette, who asked the question about hereditary sin, you - and your children - have the power through Christ to start a new legacy. Instead of continuing a pattern of abuse or addictions or dysfunctional behavior, start a new legacy of love for and obedience to the One who has pulled you from your past and made you new.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author of a dozen books, including Women on the Edge, When a Woman Overcomes Life's Hurts, and When Women Walk Alone. For more on her books, ministry, or free resources to strengthen your soul, visit her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.
Publication date: May 31, 2013
Cindi McMenamin is a pastor’s wife, award-winning writer, national speaker, and the author of several books to help women and couples strengthen their relationship with God and one another. She and her husband, Hugh, co-authored the book When Couples Walk Together: 31 Days to a Closer Connection. Some of her books to help you combat fear and strengthen your trust in God include When Women Walk Alone (more than 145,000 copies sold), Women on the Edge, Drama Free: Finding Peace When Emotions Overwhelm You and When Women Long for Rest. You can find out more about her ministry, books, and free resources at www.StrengthForTheSoul.com .