“You’re a woman recovering from a porn addiction? Isn’t that just a guy’s thing?"
Girlfriend, you’re not alone. Advocate for healthy sexuality, Shannon Ethridge says, “The idea that it’s just a ‘guy’s issue’ is one of the biggest myths of our day. We can’t forget that the male and female brains are both wired to respond to visual stimulation with sexual arousal,” says the author of the popular Every Woman’s Battle series.
So, what’s the big deal? I mean everyone looks at dirty pictures from time to time––right? We’re not prudes, are we?
The hard truth is that looking at pornography may start out as a casual thing, but as with any sin what we feed our flesh, our flesh will crave.
Surveys reveal that most women battling porn addictions began secretly when they were between the ages of 13 and 17. If this is your story, and you’ve been viewing porn since adolescence, it’s no wonder the addiction seems impossible to break.
For many women the door they naively opened as a teen has become an angry dragon demanding to be fed.
Maybe you can relate to Lydia's comment: “One side of me despises it, and a darker side of me craves only meaningless degrading sex. How can I love something I loathe?? And then I hate myself for being able to find enjoyment in something so far from the way sex is designed to be.”
Of the women surveyed in the Dirty Girl’s Ministries online community, 87% say they feel or have felt “out of control” when it comes to the matter of masturbation; 70% say the same about sexual fantasies.
But, if you’re working to recover from pornography’s grip, you don’t need statistics to tell you about the shame, isolation, or helplessness you’ve experienced from this secret sin.
What you need is support to help you break free, and hope to be victorious over this roaring lion who comes to kill, steal and destroy all that is good that God has for you. Let’s look at 5 points to give you hope and help on your path to recovery:
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