7. Be a Listener
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James 1:19: "My dear friends, you should be quick to listen and slow to speak or to get angry."
In a world where everyone wants to be heard, we must remain vigilant not to be counted among those who have given way to the lost art of listening. Listening is a communication skill many of us struggle with because we are often thinking about the next thing we want to say instead of paying attention when someone else is speaking. Listening requires focus and a non-judgmental attitude about what we are hearing.
Our friends often do not want us to fix things or give them the answers concerning what they share with us in conversation. They just desire a listening ear that offers comfort, simply by being present in the moment as they speak. We want to be the kind of godly girl friend that listens deeply and even pays attention to the unspoken words our friends express through their countenance or nonverbal communication. We want our listening to convey, "I hear you, and I'm here for you."
8. Be Positive
Hebrew 10:24: "And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works."
Considerate friends are positive friends. They look for the good, praise the good, and magnify the good. Being positive with our perspective and words yields powerful results in our friendships. Ladies, let's be the kind of friend who seeks to encourage our friends, especially regarding their goals and pursuing dreams.
We want to stir up love and good works in them by maintaining a correct attitude. If our friends experience negative feedback, may it never come from us. This does not mean we cannot be honest when offering our opinions. However, we should never have a harsh, critical outlook. We can always choose to speak the truth in love and let our words be seasoned with grace. We want to create a friendship culture where positivity is the norm. Otherwise, we may need to evaluate if we are dealing with a toxic, dysfunctional friendship.
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