Work Trials May be Damaging Other Areas of Your Life
- 2006 27 Nov
Is a "toothache" clouding your bigger picture of success and accomplishment?
Sigmund Freud once stated, "A man with a toothache cannot be in love," meaning simply that the attention demanded by the toothache doesn’t allow that person to notice anything other than his pain. In working with people going through job change, I often find Freud’s principle to be confirmed. I see grown men ignoring their wives, hiding out to avoid seeing their friends, watching too much TV and eating foods that blunt their minds. I see women embarrassed about yet another layoff stop going to church, spend money they do not have, read romance novels rather than inspirational material, and snap at their kids when asked an innocent question. The "pain" of the job loss seems to mask the health, vitality and success they have in other life areas.
"Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go." T.S. Eliot
Yes, a crisis will scream for our undivided attention. However, diverting your focus may in fact be part of the solution. A couple of years ago I worked with a young man who had just lost $3.2 million in a business deal. He was totally in the tank financially and in his career. But rather than fretting about that I prescribed that he would go to the YMCA each morning for 2 hours. His intense focus there initiated the vitality and creativity that allowed him to quickly spring back to success financially as well.
Going through an unexpected or unwelcome change in your life provides a great opportunity to take a fresh look at your success in other areas. Make additional deposits of success in your physical well-being. The energy and creativity that can come from a sharp mind and body can generate the very ideas you need at this time. Organize a pot-luck with a group of your friends – you’ll be surprised how many of them are going through a similar experience and providing one dish will cost you no more than eating your own meal. Pick up a great book to read. If you read only 10 minutes a day you can read a new book a month – and that can transform your insight and preparation for new options. Stay connected spiritually. You’ll realize that in the scope of eternity, this event is probably a tiny spot on the timeline.
"What a new face courage puts on everything." Ralph Waldo Emerson
From the Bible: (Think a broken tooth doesn’t cripple you?)
"Break the teeth in their mouths, O God: tear out, O Lord, the fangs of the lions! Let them vanish like water that flows away: when they draw the bow, let their arrows be blunted. Like a slug melting away as it moves along, like a stillborn child, may they not see the sun." Psalms 58: 6-8 (NIV)
Direction for Today:
What is the toothache in your life that is demanding your undivided attention? How can you continue being "successful" in other areas of your life anyway?
Dan Miller is President of The Business Source, founder of "48 Days" and author of 48 Days To The Work You Love and 48 Days To Creative Income. He is the growing authority for creating effective life plans that are achieved by integrating natural gifts, unique personality traits and one's own values and passions. His unique clarification of how God gifts us will introduce you to a new sense of freedom and fulfillment of your life's calling. For more information, visit http://www.48days.com/.