Trap 4: We Can Make it on Our Own
A year into their marriage, Jackie and Mike pulled their financial resources together and built a beautiful house on the lake.
They invited the help of decorators and landscaping experts. But they didn’t involve God in building their house--or their home either. Their effort is described in Luke 6:49, “But the one who hears my words and does not put them into practice is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. The moment the torrent struck that house, it collapsed and its destruction was complete."
Too bad Jackie and Mike couldn’t learn from the prophet Nehemiah. He knew all about destruction.
When he received the news that the wall of Jerusalem was torn down, he knelt and wept. But then he got up, wiped his tears, fasted and prayed, asking God for resources, provision and guidance. God nodded and the wall was rebuilt.
Unlike Nehemiah, we have a different approach today. We head forth using our own skills, abilities and plans. We call it independence, but it’s really pride.
Rather than the Bible, we consult the culture and follow its pattern. We cave in to peer pressure compliments of social media. And when we need answers, we don’t ask God, we do a Google search instead.
God is searching too. He’s looking for those who, in humility, will understand that Jesus is the vine and we are the branches. Apart from Him, we can do nothing. (John 15:4)
Without Him, there’s nothing we can do to fix our problems. Nothing to ease the pain. And nothing to mend what was broken. But we turn that nothing to something powerful if, from the depth of our soul, we declare that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. (Philippians 4:13)
That strength turns to the courage that proclaims we’re humble and wise. We’re no longer Satan’s prey marinated in pride. We stand in Christ’s power so the enemy cannot steal our peace, kill our hope or destroy our marriages.
A prayer for relying on God:
Father, thank You for helping me put aside the pride that threatened to tear down my marriage. Thank You for giving us second chances and for the wisdom to recognize without You, we have nothing.
Jesus could have chosen to be happy rather than endure the sad flogging.
He could have asserted His right as an innocent man.
And He could have spoken His indignation and given in to Satan’s lies.
But He didn’t.
Instead, empty of pride, with a heart full of love, He set the example. He showed how glorious victory is won.
The same victory that can make our marriages thrive. That’s because we triumphed over pride, and now peace rules, calmness reigns and love conquers all.
Janet Perez Eckles is an international speaker, author of four books to empower you and she’s host of “See what’s Cooking” videos. Her passion is to help you overcome the setbacks in life and show you the path to triumphant success.
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