Bible Verses to Save Marriage
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1. Proverbs 15:1 (NLT) says, “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
Have you ever been so angry with your spouse not for what they said but how they said it? Proverbs clearly illustrates this practical truth: the tone we use in our daily conversation can have a hefty effect on the kind of response we get from those around us. In married life, conflict tends to start in the subtext of our interactions. A snippy tone, rolled eyes, a short response, or even a rushed exchange can be the kindling for major conflict.
We have to be vigilant not to let careless responses steal the tenderness and joy from our marriages. Be quick to listen when your spouse comments on your tone. It’s easy to let your hackles go up as soon as your spouse comments on your grumpiness or lack of grace in the tone you are taking. Rather than seeing their observations as an invitation to fight, see it as a red flag that tells you it’s time to stop and consider the state of your heart.
2. Colossians 3:12 says, “Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.”
If we have lost the connection with our spouse, one way to rebuild what we once had is through connecting heart-to-heart; which means connecting emotionally before anything else. To accomplish this we first and foremost need the power of God that gives us tenderness, gentleness, kindness, humility, and lots of patience that is listed in Colossians.
While we all aspire to offer our spouses these sorts of responses, without the help of Jesus our selfish and impatient human nature wins out way more than we would like.
Practically living out these traits most times looks like you offer a listening ear. We need to use tenderness when our spouse is facing a situation where they are struggling to navigate.
When you do choose to speak, use affirming words that let them know that you hear them and see that they are burdened. Remind them you are on their team and even if what they face is challenging they are not on their own.
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