1. Too Much “Chick Chat”
One of the annoying things we do, as wives, is talk to our husbands like they are our girlfriends and then expect them to respond as such.
Talking girl stuff, rambling, or going on and on about topics that truly would be inane to him can drive him up the wall.
Is your husband going to tell you this? Not a chance. He will most likely quietly endure it.
But he might rather be scraping his nails on a splintery door than hearing about the female drama in your workplace, or what your best friend said to the clerk at the cosmetic counter, or how the other moms are over participating in their children’s classroom project so your child will likely not get a fair grade in comparison.
Men are wired for challenges, to provide a solution for the problem you are working on, or to help you in a tangible way.
Chances are he will tune out altogether, or offer suggestions to fix the situation, or worse yet, look at you with bewilderment while trying to figure out why you are telling him the things you are if you don’t make that clear up front.
If you truly want to vent, do that with your girlfriends or someone who is close to the situation. And if you want his help or advice, ask plainly for it before you get into the story.
But if you are chatting just to keep him “in the know” or worse yet, just for the sake of talking, you might see his eyes glaze over.
Another thing that annoys him is when you interpret his “eye glaze” to mean he’s not listening or he doesn’t care. First of all, he’s not listening, but he doesn’t want to be accused of it. Secondly, he cares about you, just not certain things you talk about.
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