How to Maintain Intimacy
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The first step is to be proactive about carving time out for each other. It may even take you saying, “When can we have a date this week?” or “When can we be intimate?”
The next is to ensure you both have removed any barriers to your relationship. Sometimes late nights at work can’t be avoided but it should not be a constant. Evaluate how you are expressing your love for your spouse. Other tips include:
Communicating with each other. Learn to talk to each other about how you're feeling, stressor, or whatever is weighing heavy on your heart. Learn to truly listen to what your spouse has to say too.
Touch each other more often. Touch helps couples bond physically and emotionally. Enhance intimacy by holding hands, giving back rubs, hugging and kissing, and other physical touching and caressing.
Have sex more often. Make it a priority because it benefits both of you. It helps keep you bonded and connected instead of drifting to roommates who happen to share the same bed.
Spend more time alone together. It’s tough with kids, crazy work schedules, and social distancing but marriage comes first. Plan some time together without children or family or work. It could be a simple date, a weekend getaway, alone time increases marriage.
Express your love more often. Leave notes, call them on your lunch break, or bring home their favorite treat.
Read the Song of Solomon Together. The Song of Solomon contains great ideas for sexual expression and Christian intimacy in marriage.
Pray with your spouse. Pray every day with your spouse and over your spouse. Use a couple’s devotional, in your prayer time together. Consider joining a small group that is marriage focused.
Go on adventures together. Do something your spouse loves doing, hiking, rock climbing, getting a massage, skydiving. It doesn’t matter as long as you’re doing it together.
If you’re one of the many marriages struggling to be revived and you’re wondering how to bring intimacy back into your marriage, you aren’t alone. God wants nothing more than to breathe new life into your relationship.
The first step is to admit you both are responsible for drifting apart. The second is forgive each other’s grievances and keep no record of wrongs to move forward. We’re reminded in the “Love Chapter” of the Bible to be kind and compassionate too.
This part of becoming a couple again can be a hard, difficult journey. It may be helpful to enlist the support of a good friend, pastor, or Biblical counselor. And last but not least, become friends again.
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