If I asked you about your husband’s “little offenses” I’m sure you could give me a list. But over time, little offenses become big ones if we don’t learn how to let them go.
As I was writing my book, 12 Ways to Experience More with Your Husband, it occurred to me that we are either tossers or keepers when it comes to how we handle hurts and offenses. Tossers have the ability to forgive, move forward, and experience more joy in their marriages. However, keepers have a difficult time letting things go and therefore have a more difficult time in marriage.
Which one are you? Here are four questions to help you determine that:
- Do you get irritated by something your spouse continually does?
- Do you – or the two of you – tend to argue about the same issues or bring up an issue after the two of you have already resolved it?
- Does your mind often return to past pain or offenses?
- Do you get “triggered” by words or phrases and respond negatively, causing your spouse to look at you and wonder what it was he or she said?
If you answered “yes” to a few of those questions, here are some helpful tips for keeping offenses from hurting your marriage so you can experience more trust, more passion, and more communication with your husband:
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