The one thing to do differently: seek to speak the language of Jesus’ heart.
But there’s one love that cannot be misunderstood. It crosses every language barrier, and that’s the love Jesus speaks to our hearts.
To answer the same question I asked my Facebook peers—“What would you do differently in your marriage if you could begin again?”—I would recognize, early on, that the longings of my heart can never be fulfilled by man.
I wouldn’t silently stand behind my husband’s office chair with tears in my eyes, wanting to connect.
I wouldn’t give up on pricing miscellaneous items in the dim warehouse and escape to the park, crying while staring out at the water because I felt utterly alone, and I was newly wed.
Wasn’t this supposed to be the most intimate season of my life?
Instead, I would recognize that need in my heart as a longing only God can fulfill and go spend that time with him.
Spouses are going to let us down, and we’re going to do the same to them. Our love languages often become confused in the unending babble of children, work, and stress.
But if we’re each pursuing Jesus, then his love—and the Holy Spirit’s guidance—will act as our interpreter, allowing us to love each other with a grace only available through him.
In every relationship, not just our marital ones, let us not seek to speak each other’s love languages so much as we seek to speak the language of Jesus’ heart.
The best communication always takes place after we have first allowed ourselves to commune with him.
How about you? What is one thing you would change in your marriage if you could begin again?
Jolina Petersheim is the bestselling author of The Outcast, which Library Journal gave a starred review and named one of the best books of 2013. That book also became an ECPA and CBA bestseller. Upon the release of her second book, The Midwife, Romantic Times declared, “Petersheim is an amazing new author.” Jolina and her husband share the same unique Amish and Mennonite heritage that originated in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, but they now live in the mountains of Tennessee with their two young daughters. Her latest book is How the Light Gets In.
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