2. Husbands and Wives Complement One Another in Displaying the Attributes of God
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God graciously and fantastically inscribes his nature upon the DNA of his creation. When we study his design, we learn about the designer. As marriage is his design, we celebrate his instruction for marriage because it is reflective of God himself.
Paul instructs wives in Ephesians 5:22-24, identifying husbands as the head of the home and calling wives to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. Ephesians 5:25-27 instructs husbands in headship. While our knee-jerk reaction might be to resent authority and submission to it, husbands are called to imitate Christ in lovingly sacrificing themselves for their wives.
In so doing, husbands aid in the sanctification of their wives, that beautiful, if not at times painful, process of becoming more like Christ.
So often have these verses been manipulated, scorned, and abused in service to our flesh. Sin is a perversion of something that God created as good.
Rather than cast off these verses as unpalatable and citing examples of sin as reasons to loath them, the Christ-follower instead submits themselves to God and through his Spirit endeavors to not only walk in his commands, but love them too. We come to love them when we internalize them through the lens of scripture as a whole.
Consider, for example, the verses that precede Paul’s instruction for marriage. Ephesians 5:20-21 calls all believers to submit before one another in thanksgiving to God. Here we begin to learn that submission is not relegated to a demeaned population of wives, but is a call to the entire Church.
We are called to submit to Christ first and foremost. As we do so, we submit to others in representation of our submission to Christ.
As we carry out this design, we give the world pause. Words like headship and submission are ugly to fleshly natures. When we live them out in authentic celebration and joy, we become like arrows that point back to Christ and the goodness of the gospel.
We teach the world what God is like, redefining their definitions, perceptions, and prejudices.
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