5. Bad Parenting Promotes Entitlement
No one wants to raise an “entitled” or “spoiled” child but in today’s world, where material possessions are so easy to accumulate, it can be a real challenge not to communicate to our kids that they deserve more stuff.
There is a delicate balance between communicating worth and love to our kids and avoiding an “entitlement” mentality. My kids’ long lists of items they want for their next birthdays goes to show that avoiding the allure of more, more, more for me is a hard task for us parents!
Aha Parenting offers some great tips on how to empower our kids. Avoid substituting things for emotional connection.
Giving your child gifts is an instant way to bring them joy and it also can be a way to soothe our guilt for not showing up for our kids in the ways we would like.
If you are feeling disconnected, offer them time and experiences, rather than toys and treats.
Give your child the chance to earn things through hard work. Learning the power you have to work and make your own money is a wonderful and empowering lesson we can teach our kids. Beyond that they will be overjoyed to see that their efforts have helped them achieve their goals.
Emphasize care and gratitude for the things you have. Modeling how to take care of your possessions and showing your kids how to have a grateful heart for possessions goes a long way in helping put those possessions into proper perspective.
One way to teach kids that things require care is to let them know that they are responsible for damaging a good. For example, if they lose or ruin a library book, they can contribute to paying for it.
One amazingly encouraging fact that we learned while going through the Foster Parent training was that meeting your kids' needs correctly about 30% of the time is all it takes to grow secure and well-attached kids.
Perfection is not required as parents, just doing your best to show up well as much as possible goes a long way in growing strong and kind kids. The work we do as parents is so very important, so don’t grow weary in the good work you are doing!
Amanda Idleman is a writer whose passion is to encourage others to live joyfully. She writes devotions for the Daily Bible Devotions App, she has work published with Her View from Home, also for the MOPS Blog, and is a regular contributor for Crosswalk.com. You can find out more about Amanda on her blog or follow her on Instagram.
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