1. “Doing Things Differently Doesn’t Mean I’m Doing Them Wrong"
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Most adult kids continue to seek approval from their parents, and when they decide to do things differently, they might feel judged or criticized. They want us to know that even though they do things differently, it doesn’t mean they’re doing them wrong.
We might not understand why our kids do things the way they do, but if they aren’t hurting themselves or others, or going against God’s Word, they are probably choosing different methods of living life—and that’s okay.
Here are some ways you might notice a difference:
- The way they spend their money
- The life goals they set
- How they manage their finances
- How they run their household
- When and where they attend church
Parents will likely cringe at some of the things their adult children do, but it would be better to view things with an open mind and little flexibility, and remember the different doesn’t necessarily equal wrong.
Again, unless your child is doing something harmful, or compromising God’s standards, it would be best to recognize that their different way of doing things is probably okay. Your job, as the parent, is to be supportive and encouraging while remaining true to God’s Word.
The Bible says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3
Our adult children need us to bear with them in love, approach things with humility, offer kindness and gentleness, and be patient with how they do things. In fact, we might even learn a thing or two along the way!
Here’s another resource for navigating your adult children’s differences:
Q&A: How to support your adult child without condoning their choices
Boundaries With Family
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