1. Create a Routine
I was never good at getting my babies to follow a super rigid schedule but creating a daily routine helped our days feel organized and a little less chaotic. When thinking through what this routine should look like, consider more than just the needs of your children.
What would you like to fit into your week for you? When are you going to have time to talk to your spouse? Catch up with friends? Complete work projects?
Investing time into your Google calendar, writing out your schedule in a journal, or creating a centrally posted calendar for your home are great ways to visually keep track of the routine you hope to accomplish. When I worked full time, a routine saved us since we had to be out of the house by 7 am with two kids under two.
When I started staying home, a routine kept me from letting the long days overwhelm me. Now as a homeschooling Mom routine helps set the expectation of what needs to be accomplished throughout the week.
When my kids were young, my routine was pretty simple and went something like this: sleep in as long as humanly possible (sleep in any fashion was high on that what-needs-to-fit-into-the -week list), breakfast, shower (very briefly, while the kids were either strapped into a baby device or watching Elmo), get out of the house for a playdate or errand, come back to eat, enjoy precious NAPTIME where I fit in all the other activities I needed or wanted to do for the day, snacks, play at home or take the kids to the gym, dinner, family time, baths and bed.
For me the most essential part of my day once I became a stay at home mom was getting out of the house. The walls very quickly felt like they were coming in on us.
Find the things that are going to help you function best as a Mom and make them a prioritized part of your routine! If too much activity stresses you out, then take it easy. If you have to be at work throughout the week and are lacking on family time, protect your evenings.
You have the power to determine what you say “yes” to when it comes to your schedule. Be the boss of your days.
2. Connect with Friends
Find the people that remind you of who you are and spend time with them. Babies are magical but they have a lot of needs and can drain the life right out of you if you aren’t careful.
You need others to inspire laughter, joy, to encourage you in this sometimes very thankless work, and even to just complain to. Keep investing in those life-giving friendships because you will need them for the duration of this parenting thing!
Even when your kids get older and sleep is not such a luxury new demands can suck the fun right out of you if you're not careful. Friends help you stay young and are there to laugh and cry with you as you go through so many ups and downs parenting comes with.
Find your people, even though it’s hard with kids in tow, but you need them, so put in the work and find your tribe.
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