3. Know If They Are Financially Stable
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Money isn’t everything, but financial stability is a great asset in marriage. In fact, one of the leading causes of marital strife, and even divorce, is money. That’s why it’s super important to find out of your child’s significant other is on track financially.
Without being too nosy, ask your child questions about their significant other’s work and finances. If they are persistently out of work, have a lot of accumulated debt, or show a pattern of laziness, you might consider having a serious conversation about this issue.
Be sure to let your child know that you’re not trying to interfere, but that you know how difficult money issues can be. Assure them that with discipline and wise counsel, they can learn how to be financially responsible and start off their marriage in the best way possible.
Here are a few conversation starters that might help:
“I’ve noticed you and your significant other seem to be stressed out about money a lot. Here is a little advice that might help.”
“Your significant other mentioned something about debt the other day, and I’d like to follow up with you guys in hopes of pointing you in the right direction.”
“Before you get married, I’d like to suggest premarital counseling that includes a few sessions on finances. I can’t tell you how important it is to be financially stable before you tie the knot.”
“This is a really good book, and I’d like to pass it on. I hope it offers some insight!”
You’ll want to tread lightly in this area without overstepping your bounds, but it’s definitely a topic worth discussing before you offer your blessing.
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