2. Release the Pressure to Get it Right the First Time
It’s a common occurrence to hear our kids say, “...but everyone else has one!” Whether it’s a phone, online access, or social media, knowing when and what to allow is every parent’s dilemma. What’s even more confusing is seeing the wide span of choices with each new decision.
Some friends may allow their kids to have a smart phone at age 10, while others hold off until age 15. Some allow social media at 13, while others say “no” until 16. Seeking advice from other moms can be good, but it can also lead to more confusion. So how do we know what’s right for our child? And how do we make decisions without condemnation about our choices?
When deciding when or if to allow social media, don’t feel like it’s an all or nothing deal. There are a number of networks, with more popping up all the time. Listen, stay informed, and pray for your child’s online health. Begin with what is manageable and move forward when you are both ready.
In our trial run with my child’s first social media account, we didn’t realize the drama it would introduce to his personal life. Knowing what everyone is doing and thinking all the time can prove overwhelming for young hearts. Even with all my diligence in studying, reading, and thinking I knew what to expect, the newness of it all caught us off-guard. I wanted to condemn myself for being a bad mom.
I almost gave into this mom guilt, but instead I decided to reset and start again. I realized we could take a step back, review the problem, wait a bit, and start over. Our second time was a smoother transition because we took the time to address any issues he experienced. He moved forward with a better understanding of social media, and a stronger sense of its purpose.
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