Make a habit of using positive and encouraging phrases that are specific and true. “You worked hard for that “B” states that you know they spent time and effort in the subject. “Thank you for your help with dinner. You’re great at mashing potatoes.”
Set a goal to make a positive statement during each part of the day spent together and also in giving feedback as your child shares about his or her day.
Start the day with a compliment about the choice of clothes or being ready for the day. Add encouragement as you notice your child mastering a task, putting away a toy or book, or gives you a compliment. End the day with a chat about how thing went and how they rose to challenges, coped with emotions, or accomplished something.
Your child will be happy because you noticed them and their actions, you listened, cared, and affirmed their importance in your life. Your positive words will give them confidence for life.
Be the mom who inspires her children and fills their minds and hearts with encouraging words. They are more apt to stay close as adults and you’ll be grateful as you watch them find joy and purpose in life. They will continue to rejoice at the sound of your voice. Hopefully, they will catch on to your use of positive words and bless their children with affirmations of encouragement.
Karen Whiting is a mother of five, including two rocket scientist sons, international speaker, and author of twenty-five books. Check out her book for parents of young girls, Raising a Young Modern Day Princess.
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