4. You Are FREE to Let Your Kids Work Through Hard Things
Modern parents have become a little obsessed with removing every roadblock for our kiddos. They even came up for a term for this kind of parenting: “snowplow parenting” is when we push every obstacle out of the way of our kids.
Not only is this exhausting for Mom and Dad, it prevents our kids from properly growing and learning.
God uses experiences and circumstances in our lives to mold and shape us. As adults, we understand that sometimes we go through things so God grows up our faith and character (1 Peter 1:7). This is also true for our kids!
This doesn’t mean we have to sit back and say yes to everything or never step in to help our children, we must have discernment as parents. It does mean that we should not be afraid when our kids have to work through learning how to navigate a new experience independently.
If you're not sure how to start, my advice is to start at home. Identify tasks they are capable of doing but you have not yet taught them to do.
Some ideas include: helping with dishes, putting away laundry, making their beds, wiping down bathrooms, mopping, making lunches, taking care of pets, or anything else that grows independence and is helpful to you.
If this is new to you and them, expect some tears at first. I promise the tears will pass and they will grow confident in their ability to be helpful. Our kids rise to the expectations that we set for them. Over time these skills can translate to other spaces. This confidence will help them stand tall when they need to be a leader in their classrooms, teams, or with their peers.
Realizing they are responsible for their own actions and care is a spiritual lesson. If we have no sense of personal responsibility how then will they see the need for a personal Savior? When we solve every problem for our kids, we are also removing potential moments for God to show up in their lives.
Struggles, failures, and new responsibilities are places where they can learn to lean on God as their helper in new ways.
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