3. Let Them Grieve
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When your child faces big emotions after experiencing disappointment, loss, or failure, allow them the space to process these feelings. Being upset is not a reason to give up. When our kids feel like they have the space to process those emotions and then try again, they are less likely to give up. Emotions are important to recognize, but it’s good for them to learn that they don’t have to be the boss of your decision-making.
4. Model Perseverance
This may be the hardest for us parents! We live in a quick-fix culture. Embracing tough goals and pursuing solutions to hard-to-fix problems is not something we are accustomed to doing. Our kids need to be witnesses to our efforts when life gets challenging. Persevering in our faith, marriages, relationships, or in reaching our goals even in the face of harder life seasons is such an important life lesson for us to teach our kids.
For sure, they will face hard seasons, and your model will be something that gives them strength in these challenging moments.
5. Teach Your Child to Take a Break
We can’t make progress when we are exhausted! We need to teach our kids how to step away from something to rest and then come back to it. When they begin to feel overwhelmed, stressed, or emotional, these are good clues that it’s time to take a break to recharge before returning to the task.
6. Offer Emotional Support
When our kids come to us wanting to quit something they love, our instant response can be to shoot them down. These moments are an opportunity for us to lean in and offer emotional support. The chances are they want to quit because they are feeling discouraged or upset in some way. We can help our kids process their emotions by asking probing questions to understand why they want to set away from something they once loved.
For younger kids, “playing” that activity can help them process their emotions around that activity. If your child wants to quit dance class, try playing dance at home and observe your child’s behavior. See if this playtime gives you an insight into why they don’t want to go to class anymore.
Once you’ve taken the time to investigate the real “why” behind their insistence of quitting, then you can together decide if their decision is going to serve them well, or maybe after talking it out, they will be ready to return to their activity joyfully.
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