4. You May Grow Anxious, Depressed, or Resentful
Focusing on what you don’t have, and becoming worried over your singleness will discourage you. And if that discouragement is left unbridled you may become depressed.
This can also lead to resentment. You may never admit you’re resentful toward your friends who appear to be happily married, but you might secretly resent them for not inviting you to their “couples only” dinner party. Or you may resent the Lord for not letting you have your own happily-ever-after.
Proverbs 12:25 says, “Anxiety in the heart of a man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.” The more you dwell on the good word of the Lord the better equipped you’ll be to battle anxious thoughts, dispel depression and resentment, and become a joyful person.
Instead of focusing on finding the one, work to become the one. If you want the Father to entrust you with a joyful, godly, Christ-honoring spouse, you would do well to allow Him to develop these traits in your own character.
Jesus said, “Out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45). When you’re obsessed with finding a spouse, anxious or depressed, your words will reflect what’s in your heart. These character qualities will not likely attract a godly mate. So, let God’s word dwell in you richly so that when you meet someone who’s looking for a godly spouse, your genuine love for Christ will be an attractive reflection of your heart.
If you’re single and you’re thinking, But I don’t even want to get married this conversation is not for you. If God’s called you to singleness, don’t look down on others who hope for marriage.
For you who deeply long to get married, Psalm 37:4 reminds us, “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.”
If you commit yourself to delighting in all God is and find your completeness in His purpose for your life.* Then you can trust Him to either adjust your hope for marriage, or, in His timing, grant your heart’s desire to marry one who will help you run the race for Christ.
Remember, God’s all about making you complete in Christ. He’s more interested in your holiness than your happiness, because true completeness will only be found in a relationship with Him.
As you wait, be encouraged by this promise; “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him” (1 Corinthians 2:9).
*WATCH FREE this video of Rhonda sharing what it means to delight in the Lord.
Rhonda Stoppe is dedicated to help women LIVE LIFE WITH NO REGRETS.
Rhonda is the author of 6 books including: Moms Raising Sons to Be Men , and Real Life Romance Her newest book is The Marriage Mentor, is co-authored with her Pastor-husband, Steve Stoppe. (Harvest House Publishers) With over 30 years experience of helping women build a life with no regrets as a pastor’s wife, mentor, speaker, author, mom & grandmother. She’s a regular guest on Focus on the Family co-host of The No Regrets Hour, and other popular Christian Radio broadcasts. Rhonda helps women to:
- • Break free from regrets that hold them back
- • Grow in wholehearted devotion to Christ
- • Find victory over people-pleasing
- • Have the marriage others only dream about
- • Build a godly legacy to become more influential than they ever dreamed possible
Rhonda and Steve have been married 38 years and live out their own real life romance on their ranch in Northern California. Watch Free marriage videos or to book the Stoppe’s for your marriage event visit www.NoRegretsWoman .
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