2. Considerate and Empathetic
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When looking at someone as a potential mate, it is essential to dig deeper than the surface of how that person interacts and treats other people. Empathy is when someone places themselves in the shoes of another person, taking into account how an event or circumstance may make that person feel or what that person may be going through. In a similar vein, consideration is taking into thought the needs or feelings. These are two qualities to be aware of in how someone treats and interacts with others. Although qualities such as these can often be assumed as deep feelers, they offer a place of profound kindness, understanding, and how they may treat you as a mate. They also reflect the heart of the Lord in how He treated those around Him and how He treats us today when we come before Him. Compassion and empathy are not signs of weakness; instead, they are signs of gentleness, humanity, and of someone you want to be in your life as a secure and soft place.
True humility is to be desired when looking for a future spouse. Humility is thinking of another before yourself. Jesus offered the ultimate humility in dying for the sins of all humanity, placing us before Himself. In the same way, we can follow the example of Christ by living a humble life as guided by Him. When we allow God to guide and direct our lives, actions, and decisions in situations, we place Him before our own wisdom, acting in humility. In the same way, humility in marriage plays a role in putting your spouse before yourself. As Ephesians 5:22-26 offers, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Acting in such a way as Ephesians encourages then places your spouse before you in the way of true and intimate love as God would call for. This is not a competition of who can lower themselves more. Rather, it is loving one another in true godly love to the utmost of your daily ability.
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