5. Being Single Does Not Equal Loneliness
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Loneliness can be defined in a number of different ways: having no friends, intentional isolation, a feeling of disconnectedness, social isolation, devoid of human contact. People are often led to believe that singles are lonely.
Contrary to popular belief, many unmarried people are just the opposite. Lots of singles have intentionally decided not to marry or have intimate relationships for a number of reasons. They enjoy their own company, they don’t want the responsibility of marriage, or they’re healing from a past relationship.
If you grapple with loneliness take a look at the list below for a few reminders and tips on how to handle these feelings:
1. As a child of God, you are never alone. God is always with you. He knows when feelings of loneliness come upon you. He will always meet your needs if you cry out to Him.
2. Many people who are in relationships or have active social lives are lonelier than someone who appear not to be as socially active. Just because someone seemingly has an active social life doesn’t mean they’ve made meaningful connections that fulfill their lives. A person can be surrounded with tons of people yet simultaneously feel alone.
3. If you feel you are alone, pray and ask God to help you discover the root of your loneliness. Once this is revealed to you, accept it and pray for guidance on how to move beyond it.
Feelings of loneliness are very real and must be acknowledged. However, having an intimate relationship may not be the resolution for it. If you’re suffering from loneliness take some time to discover why and begin the healing process for yourself.
6. Your Sexual Desires Are Natural
Sex was created by God. God placed those desires in us. He’s also given us the choice to remain sexually and morally pure. Acknowledging these desires will help you sustain. However, ignoring or suppressing them will pique curiosity and make abstaining difficult.
The subject of sex is often a forbidden topic in the church unless it’s discussed among married couples. For those who aren’t married, the advice given is to simply wait to engage in sex until you’re married. In the meantime, how does an unmarried Christian handle their very real desires for sex? Here’s how:
1. Acknowledge and become comfortable with your desires. Many Christians are uncomfortable with the idea of having sexual desires. This is simply because the world has distorted and misused the beauty of sexual intimacy. These desires are nothing to be ashamed of. Become comfortable with each sexual desire you have and discover why they exist in you.
2. Pray and ask God to help you understand why those desires exist. Typically, sexual desires come about when one feels lonely or vulnerable. Getting to the heart of why you desire sex will help you handle those desires the tight way.
3. Pray and ask God to help you control your desires, not remove them. Again, God placed these desires in you so it’s natural for them to exist. After you’ve prayed for guidance on how to control them follow the directions that have been given to you. This will avoid many spiritual and emotional pitfalls for you in the long run.
Being, living as a single Christian woman is a thing of beauty. If you are struggling during this current season in your life, take some time to pray and reflect on why you struggle. God did not intend for this time in your life to be filled with lies about who are.
Always remember whose you are and who you are. Whether you are single or married, you are a child of the Most-High God and who has purpose according to His will for your life.
And that’s truth we must all continue to walk in.
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