5. Acknowledge if You Cross the Line
One of the best things you can do in your relationship is to call out when you’ve crossed a line immediately. If you’ve said that you’re not kissing until the altar and then you start making out while watching Netflix, call it out.
When you don’t call out these slipups, you will keep making them. If you leave your mistake unspoken, you’ve effectively moved your boundary. And once you’ve broken one rule, it becomes even simpler to bypass another. Even if you're still light-years away from the premarital-sex line, you need to address this mistake.
Say you’ve decided that the boundary you set was too strict, like no physical touch whatsoever, and you want to move the boundary to something lesser, like allowing handholding. This is a decision that needs to be made out of the heat of the moment, mutually agreed upon, and ideally discussed with your accountability partners. Moving boundaries, no matter their strictness, should not be taken lightly.
So, while there is no clear-cut decision on when the first kiss in a relationship should be shared, I whole-heartedly believe it’s a decision you should think about ahead of time. The more prepared you are for the decision, the more confident you’re going to feel that you made the right choice.
Lindsey Brady is a wife and stepmother who loves to spend time in nature or go for long runs. When she's feeling a bit more sedentary, she'll watch an entire season of any Food Network show in a single sitting. You can follow her on Instagram at real.slim.brady.
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