We often think we are right, holding the truth and elevating ourselves and our attitudes above others. This ‘holier-than-thou’ attitude is at best off-putting, and at worst causes distrust, distance and engenders animosity. No one wants to be around someone who must be right. Be careful in taking a position, knowing that doing so creates an adversarial process. If you are right, you make the other wrong. Scripture reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously: “think of yourself with sober judgment” (Romans 12:3).
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!