There are times when it is healthy to adapt. There are times when coping is something we all must do. However, coping over a long period of time takes a tremendous toll. Consider the woman who learns to tiptoe around her angry husband. Imagine the man who watches every word so as to not upset his temperamental wife. This kind of adaptation begins to shape us in a unhealthy way. We lose parts of ourselves at each step. Be very careful at what you give up for peace. True peace is never found in pleasing others. Rather, Scripture tells us, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you” (John 14:27).
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.