After moving out of state, we visited churches where I longed to find new friends. A sense of rejection washed over me whenever people would shake my hand and then, without any attempt to know me personally, turn and walk away. I soon learned if I wanted friends, I needed to take steps toward building relationships.
After I got over my pity party and stopped blaming others for not being friendly, I discovered my focus had been wrong. I learned how taking my eyes off of myself and looking to Jesus––the friend who sticks closer than a brother––enabled me to be friendly because my motivation became loving others with Christ’s love rather than gaining friendships for my own satisfaction.
Can you relate to my story? Have you ever felt like you have no real friends at church? While it is nice when others reach out, you would be wise to realize that most people have a hard time striking up new friendships. So rather than resenting their lack of effort, how about you take the initiative toward building lasting friendships? Let’s look at 10 things you might be doing wrong if you have no friends at church. Ask yourself:
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