7 Healthy Habits of Singleness
Habits are the daily practices we incorporate into our lives that support our mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being. They are routines that have been intentionally set in place that serve as a guide for creating and maintaining a balanced life. Habits shape who we are and who we strive to be. Developing healthy habits involves consistently and intentionally practicing positive behaviors that promote an internally and externally healthy lifestyle. It begins with setting small, specific goals and creating a routine that you can maintain. For believers, developing healthy habits for spiritual growth is learned and developed over time with a clear heart, focus, and goals. They can include attending Bible study, reading God's Word, open and private devotion, or prayer time. Every believer has formed a habit to strengthen their relationship with God for their own personal reasons.
Some unpartnered believers may not feel the need to develop healthy habits for this season simply because many desire to be married. While there is nothing wrong with this, singles need to understand that their singleness is purposeful and deserves to be nurtured for intentional growth. The only way to do this is to develop healthy habits for singleness. Here's what this looks like.
1. Pray intentionally for blessings for your seasons of singleness.
1. Pray intentionally for blessings for your seasons of singleness.
Prayer is so many things to the believer. It is communication with God. It is aligning oneself with God's will. It fosters a relationship with God and is a time where humble submissions for everything we need are rendered to Him. For singles, the typical prayer is centered on finding a mate for marriage or partnership. Singles also typically pray for their loneliness to be alleviated. While there is nothing wrong with this, it's time for singles to pray for more than marriage. Singles, get into the habit of praying for blessings to manifest in your singleness. Make intentional time to ask God for more self-discovery. Pray and ask God to increase your single territory, meaning ask Him to show you His purpose for your singleness. Ask God to remove any fear and lies about singleness. Ask Him to provide deeper connections in your singleness that stem beyond marriage. No matter what you decide to pray for regarding your singleness, be sure the prayers are centered around manifesting blessings to prosper in your singleness and not praying for a way out of it.
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2. Speak positively about singleness.
2. Speak positively about singleness.
Speaking positively about being single is something many unpartnered believers don't do. This could be because singleness isn't portrayed in a positive manner, or many singles don't know how to do it! When speaking positively about your singleness, it's important to keep in mind these things: think and speak of singleness in the same manner as Christ does, and always use uplifting and encouraging language as it relates to growing in singleness. Singles get into the habit of speaking positively about the gift of singleness. "I am called to a higher purpose," "My singleness is filled with purpose", "I am who God says I am in every single season" are just a few phrases you can use to speak positively into your singleness in order to shift your mindset, your heart, and your life.
3. Prioritize your singleness.
3. Prioritize your singleness.
Prioritizing your single life beyond seeking a mate is something all unmarried believers must do in order to live completely in singleness as God intended. This is how it's done. First, identify your needs beyond your desires for a relationship. Whether it's alleviating loneliness, seeking understanding for your singleness, or rebuilding your mental health, identify your single needs and begin to take action. You can take some time to create a list of tasks that will uplift your single spirit. These tasks can include solo excursions, meditating on Scriptures about singleness, or redeveloping your single circle. Learn to take time for yourself and prioritize your single needs. This will help you create an enriched single journey.
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4. Biblically affirm your singleness.
4. Biblically affirm your singleness.
It's one thing to affirm your singleness but another thing to biblically affirm it. Biblically affirming your singleness means you are relying on the Word of God to confirm truths about singleness. It makes sense to do this because God created singleness, His Word is true, and all you need to know about your singleness is in the Bible. Singles develop the habit of reading, studying, and meditating on God's Word to affirm the gift of singleness He's given you. Actively find passages that tell of God's love for you. Intentionally immerse yourself in His words about singleness so that your mind and spirit become one with them. Doing this will give you a new song in your heart and renew your spirit regarding singleness.
5. Take ownership of it as God designed it, and relearn singleness the way God created it.
5. Take ownership of it as God designed it, and relearn singleness the way God created it.
Many singles are ashamed of their relationship status because of the way it is often perceived. Naturally, no one wants to take ownership of something they are ashamed of. Taking ownership of your singleness and relearning means you take the time to unlearn what you know and replace that knowledge with new, uplifting information. It also means to be positively proactive with understanding why you're single and being committed to these seasons. Singles, get into the habit of relearning singleness as God intended and own your singleness.
6. Become a Proverbs 3:5-6 single.
6. Become a Proverbs 3:5-6 single.
Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to trust in God will our whole heart, and lean not on our own understanding. It also encourages us to submit our ways to God, and He will guide our paths. Becoming a Proverbs 3:5-6 single calls for unpartenered believers to trust God with your singleness. It requires removing our understanding of singleness as it's been learned, and relying on His understanding of singleness as He designed it to be. Developing the habits of Proverbs 3:5-6 requires one to exercise your faith in God, and live boldly in the gift of singleness that He's given you. Singles, get into the habit of living your single life modeling these scriptures in order for your faith in God and singleness to grow in the right direction.
7. Practice gratitude.
7. Practice gratitude.
Being thankful for singleness can seem like an oxymoron because many singles don't see a reason to be grateful for it. On the contrary, there are many reasons to be grateful for being single. To start, singleness is a symbol of freedom. Freedom to grow as God allows you, freedom to learn who you are and why God has placed you in singleness. Additionally, singleness is the time to build a relationship with God and delve into the ministry work He has for you. Singleness is a journey filled with so many things to be grateful for and it's time to get into the habit of showing it. You can journal your thoughts about the freedom God has given, make a list of friendships you've forged in singleness, or design a grateful jar and write small notes about how grateful you are to grow in singleness. Whatever you decide to do, be sure each thought of gratefulness brings you closer to God, and stronger in singleness.
Developing habits takes time and commitment. It calls for unwaberign dedication to your goals. Singles, as you move forward in singleness, it is my sincere prayer that you develop healthy habits that will heal your brokenness, heal any bitterness you may be harboring in your heart about being single, and forge habits that will help you embrace it for the gift that it is. Start intentionally planning to reshape your singleness by starting small, and adapting one of the habits listed above. Be patient with yourself, and know that God is with you every step of the way.
As you take this journey, be sure to track and acknowledge your progress in any way you see fit, and remember that it's okay to start again as many times as you need to. If you find yourself wavering, lean on a solid, spirit-filled group of singles who will hold you accountable and keep you on track. To take things a step further, I suggest creating a healthy habits of singleness vision board where you clearly define what habits you want to release and what habits you want to adopt. If you decide to do this, once it's created, place it where you can see it daily. This will serve as a reminder for you to stay focused on resetting your singleness with new habits. It will also serve as personal encouragement. As you begin this journey in singleness, carefully and prayerfully stay committed to the goal of creating your single habits to keep you happy, healthy, whole, and prosperous. There is purpose in every season, but you won't discover it unless you are actively involved in its beauty.
Originally published July 11, 2025.
