10. Seek Professional Help
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Grief expresses itself in numerous ways. Sometimes, the loss is so deep that one needs a professional to guide them through the dark waters. If you are not a certified counselor, realize that you’re not equipped to help someone who needs professional help. Ask God to help you discern their need, and get advice from your pastor. If your friend’s sorrow is too deep, help them realize there’s no shame in seeing a godly counselor. Looking for help is a sign of maturity. Direct them to a Biblical Counselor near you.
Help them feel safe to tell you if they’re not ok. Don’t make your friend feel like they need to pretend they’re alright if they’re not. Pretense will only make them feel more alone and isolated. The Enemy loves to get us alone so he can keep us captive. Encourage them to attend church, and then sit with them. Especially for widows who have spent a lifetime seated next to their spouse in church, the loneliness can be unbearable. It is emotional, but grieving within a Christian community is a healthy part of the process.
While this is not an exhaustive list to help a grieving friend, it is a great place to start. Learning together from Scripture and being with the body is part of God’s plan, so encourage them to join you at church. If they don’t know Christ, share with them the hope of the gospel. Be a good listener and prayer support. And don’t forget to buy them chocolate – lots and lots of chocolate!*
*This article is an expression of opinions and not professional advice. For professional help please seek a Biblical counselor. Here's a link to Association of Biblical Counselor Network: https://christiancounseling.com/network/find-a-counselor/
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