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Discover the Book - Jan. 28, 2008

  • 2008 Jan 28

The Wise Woman & the Foolish Woman


God has inspired two pictures in Proverbs. One is the Proverbs 31 woman; the other is the Proverbs 14 woman. In contrast to the elegantly resourceful, humbly beautiful, woman of wisdom in Proverbs 31 is the Proverbs 14 woman. She is the antithesis of excellence and virtue. She destroys and troubles, and lacks wisdom.


A godly woman and a godly young lady learn their manners from the Word of God. Join me as we look over the shoulders of the great Biblical women of the faith. Throughout the centuries they have poured over the Scriptures and looked for God's truth. A great place to start is in Proverbs 14:1-9 with special emphasis on verse one. In these verses we find the Proverbs 14 woman.

The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. (NKJV)

What a contrast. The wise woman is a builder of a godly home. She is a model of godly conduct. The foolish woman is a destroyer. That is what the words “tear down” mean. She destroys her home, her family and eventually her own life. Word by word, person by person, her evil stifles, chokes and eventually destroys people and relationships. What is her outcome? Look back at Proverbs 11:29.


He who troubles his own house will inherit the wind, and the fool [will be] servant to the wise of heart. (NKJV).


There is a classic American Tale[1][1], Gone with the Wind that so vividly portrays this idea. The movie is based on Margaret Mitchell’s novel about a slice of Southern Living in the strife torn Civil War Era. The key themes of the movie are very similar to those we find as we meditate on the warnings of God's Word. It was a life nearly oblivious to the world around it. It was a vividly selfish, indulgent life. The central character is well known to us - the enticing southern belle, Scarlet O’Hara. She was a cunning and crafty woman who knew what she wanted and always tried to get it. Her self-centeredness is in stark contrast to the servant hearted Melanie. So Solomon, under the inspiration of the Spirit of God, contrasts the selfish and indulgent foolish woman to the sweet and selfless wise woman.


The outlook for a joy filled lifelong marriage is about as bleak without the Lord as those tragic war torn scenes of devastation from the Civil War! But that is not God’s Will. He doesn’t want strife torn lives and homes. He doesn’t want empty lives and hearts. He wants marriage to be life long and joy filled. So to prepare us, God has left a colorful guide to marriage; it is a timeless list of godly character qualities that we who know and love the Lord should seek. God's Word says much about men and women. The Lord goes so far as to even identify what type of person we should avoid, stay away from, and especially never consider as a viable marriage partner. The list is timeless, and can be your guide to a joyous Biblical marriage.


How do we cultivate godliness in our daughter? By knowing, sharing, praying, and most of all – LIVING the portrait God has painted of a GODLY WOMAN.



[1][1] Ideas found in Swindoll, You and Your Child, p. 90.

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