“We never spend time together or talk anymore, Trey,” said Shawna.

“I know. I think we need to subtract some things from our schedules,” Trey said. “And if we got the kids to bed earlier, even just one night a week, we’d be able to carve out some quality time for ourselves.”

Deep connection with your husband can slip away in busy, stressful times. Careers, children, home, church—all of these are good things, but they’re not the best thing. If you’re married, second only to your relationship with God is your relationship with your husband.

You’ve read of basic ways to spend time with your husband, like a date night or a weekend away. But think outside the box too. What kinds of things did you enjoy doing together when you dated? Did the two of you play golf? Ride bikes? Sit at the coffee shop and talk? Perhaps some things need to be cut out of your schedules so you can make time for each other. Ask God to show you if something needs to go.

Your time together doesn’t need to be expensive or planned. Get up a few minutes earlier, take a walk in your neighborhood together, or sit outside at night and watch the stars. But spending time with the one you love is worth it! Your children also need to see that you love each other, to know what a godly marriage looks like.