“And what does Ken have to say about that?” I asked, already knowing what the answer would be. There was silence on the other end of the line for a moment. Then Linda said, “He doesn’t know.” She launched into a defensive mode. “You know Ken and I have been having a lot of problems in our marriage.”

“That’s no excuse for getting involved with a man online.”

“Robert and I are not ‘involved,’ ” Linda replied. “When I talk to him about what’s going on in my life, he’s so understanding. He’s such a wonderful man.”

“Linda,” I asked cautiously, “are you developing feelings for this guy?” More silence. Then, a quiet “Yes, but I’m not committing adultery!”

“But you also aren’t giving your marriage a chance if you’re emotionally involved with this guy. Besides, he could turn out to be a nutcase for all you know. You may not be physically having sex with Robert, but if you have feelings for him, you’re having an emotional affair.”

Internet relationships might seem harmless in the beginning, but when opposite sex friendships are involved, you need to break the connection. Whether you are married or single, know who you’re chatting with online. Don’t give out personal information. And if you are having problems in your marriage, don’t confide in another man—whether it’s a friend, neighbor, coworker, or online acquaintance. Reserve those discussions only for trusted female friends and/or a Christian counselor or a pastor.